The inevitable has happened and my alcoholic ex has succumbed to the inevitable cirrhosis of the liver and died on Friday, RIP, 48 is no age to go.
My ex PIL, who I have always stayed friendly with, have been in contact asking that our 3 DDs, 18, 15 and 13 go to the funeral.
I have been pretty much NC for 6 years, years of drunken physical and mental abuse tend to do that, and the girls NC for 18 months.
I had to tell the girls on Friday, the oldest said 'about time to' the youngest 'why should I care', middle one was more upset but none of them want to go to the funeral.
My ex PIL are lovely people and obviously distraught at their loss, I don't want to upset them anymore than they are already but can't force the girls to go, I won't be there to support them.
On the other hand I don't want them to regret missing it in the future.
There will also be the question of the new partner who the girls all hate with a vengeance.
I can't ask anyone in RL as they all have such a jaundiced view of the ex that it's not worth even starting the conversation.
Any thoughts?
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Outonbluesix · 02/08/2015 19:36
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