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mum in law has sent me text able me wanting to split with husband

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rumblefish Sun 02-Aug-15 16:39:30

I have posted a few weeks ago about wanting to split with husband it is due the his emotional abuse and controlling behaviour.

He has literally been stalking me in my house!! Creaping into the house so I cant hear him come in, bursting into the bathroom when I am in the shower or on the toilet.

I decided to go to my mums for a week with the kids as I felt I was going mad.

I then start getting texts from mum in law telling me how I will have to sell my house and how it will affect kids if we split. She added a few other comments about sometimes men are nasty and to just get on with it.

My family have said nothing to H even though they are fuming with the him and are all behind me. Mum in law is very controlling and bossy i have had enough.

I am going to a solicitor next week as she has just made me more determined to go through with split.

Just needed a rant !!

SugarOnTop Sun 02-Aug-15 16:53:07

keep the text messages as evidence - you may need it as some point. Report your ex's stalking and intimidation and harassment to the police and your solicitor (because that's what it is) , you may be able to get an occupation under these circumstances.

ignore mil's text.....or if you're tempted i'd reply back with 'mind your own business' and then block her number from your phone.

GraysAnalogy Sun 02-Aug-15 16:58:39

She's a manipulative enabler. If this was my son behaving like he is I would be ashamed and absolutely bollocking him and supporting you, not trying to bully you into staying with him

I would text her and say you don't appreciate her trying to manipulate you and tell her you're blocking her number. Then block. I'd actually be tempted to chuck in maybe men wouldn't be able to get away with being nasty if people didn't make excuses for their behaviour. But that won't help blush There's no reason why you need contact with her.

I wish you the best of luck, stay strong

pocketsaviour Sun 02-Aug-15 17:48:48

She added a few other comments about sometimes men are nasty and to just get on with it.

Well, now you know for definite where your STBXH has got his attitude from hmm

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sun 02-Aug-15 18:02:31

"He's controlling and abusive, and I can see where he gets it from now".

Best not to engage. Just block her.

rumblefish Sun 02-Aug-15 18:49:12

Thanks for replies. That is why i am so unhappy he is turning into his mum!! They get their own way by bullying. She told me i should have told H that i was unhappy a long time ago before it got to this stage

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sun 02-Aug-15 18:54:08

She's patently an idiot. Telling an abusive twat that you're unhappy isn't likely to change their abusive behaviour. Because unhappiness is the desired outcome of being shackled to an abusive twat.

Block her

chickenfuckingpox Sun 02-Aug-15 18:57:57

my ex's mother says his problem is he has such a big heart and soon he will have two ex wives its never his fault he is an abusive bastard and if she is told this her excuse is her first husband (his dad) strangled her in front of the children so its his dads fault (his brother is nothing like them i should add and being elder wouldnt he have seen more?)

iloverunning36 Sun 02-Aug-15 19:15:02

Urg yes ignore, engaging with her will make you more angry as she'll spout more nonsense. My ex did this stuff and his family also made excuses for him. He also turned it round on me saying he didn't know how unhappy I was (after I'd tried to leave twice) what he actually meant was he thought I was too stuck to leave. flowers for you and stay strong, glad your family are looking after you.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Sun 02-Aug-15 19:49:04

My word, the arsehole soup is rich and chunky in his family, isn't it? Keep the texts, they'll be handy for including her in the list of people the DCs aren't allowed to see unsupervised.

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