Hi everyone I'm so confused and looking for advice especially from those who have left their DH's!
We have been together for 8 years married for 7 I was very young when we married (21) he is 18 years older we have DC together. Things have always been rocky but we have had some really good times.
Recently though he joined Facebook and started spending ridiculous amounts of time on it and completely ignoring us.
One day I saw that a woman who lives in a different country commented on his pic in a really flirty way he replied in a flirty way this angered me as I felt humiliated especially as it was so open for my friends and relatives to see! I clicked on her profile and saw that he had wrote how sexy she looks on her pics and everytime she posted anything which was many times through the days he commented on it I confronted him he laughed it off because she's in another country we had a big row I was really hurt that he was saying those things to her but wasn't like that with me. I told him that maybe we should spend the night apart because we couldn't stop arguing and I didn't want the children affected. He agreed to go to a friends nearby he kissed me said I love you and left.
The next day he came back seemed happy to be back, he went to sleep I went through his phone... Facebook private messages between him and this woman had been going on for weeks! Including a night that we spent in a hotel together!!!
Our sex life has been rare lately due to apparently his antidepressants making him lose his sex drive. Yet turns out the night he spent away there had been very sexual messages going back between them most of the night he even sent her a pic of his jeans showing an erection underneath and then phoned her I have never been so gutted in my life I could barely hold the phone through shaking I felt like vomiting it's the worst feeling ever especially reading that he had told her he's married but having the "7 year itch"!! Now there is no trust he's blocked her and regrets being in contact with her but he still will not take responsibility for his actions keeps blaming it on me for "kicking him out"
He is very flirty with a lot of women on his friends list and it makes me sick! He accuses me of being jealous and possessive I know he's never physically cheated on me but now I'm wondering if this is what will happen in the future.
Ever since all of this the trust and communication has gone we can't talk about anything without arguing he starts getting sarcastic doing voice impressions of me and makes fun of me for crying. He used to be my hero he is my first love yet I feel I would be happier if we were apart he doesn't seem to care anymore drinks every night and pretty much ignores me. He's rarely on Facebook now but the relationship is falling apart
I'm worried that if I do leave then I will regret it and be forever unhappy I can't imagine life without him because for my whole adult life it's been us.
He's not interested in me sexually yet he gets interested in a profile picture of someone else...
I just don't know what to do is the grass greener on the other side of will I live with regret?
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miracle0812 · 02/08/2015 01:05
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