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Online guy - heavy

(37 Posts)
Goodbyemylove Fri 31-Jul-15 19:32:54

I went on a date with a guy last week, nice enough but I didn't want another date. He texted and rang, wanting to chat, he would love to see me again, just see how it goes. I said no, blocked his number and then he contacted me on whatsapp, just give me a chance, I'm a nice guy, what have you got to lose and persuaded me to see him one more time.

So after the second date today he sent me an enthusiastic text afterwards saying he would like to meet up again. I didn't feel the same so said thanks but I didn't want to pursue it any further. He texted to say he was stunned, hadn't seen it coming, was he not attractive enough etc., please don't block my number again, then he rang to say the same but said ok he wouldn't contact me.

Then he texted again to say be honest, what was it, he needs to know. Then he rang again practically begging for a shag, could he do it 'just once.'

Now he has just texted, 'I will do my absolute best to break you down. I really want you and I will do my best to get you.'

Im feeling a bit unnerved now. Why is he not listening to me? Is it enough to ignore and block?

Hissy Fri 31-Jul-15 19:35:01

You need to ask???

Block him and leave him for dust. He's a weirdo. Run Forrest, RUN!

ShebaShimmyShake Fri 31-Jul-15 19:42:00

A freak who thinks he understands domination but doesn't. Block, report, ignore, move on.

bigbumbrunette Fri 31-Jul-15 19:44:01

Wow. 'I'll do my best to break you down.....'? Run run!
The hills are that way ----->

midnightvelvetPart2 Fri 31-Jul-15 19:50:33

Ignore all calls and texts, what a creepy fucker!

CamelHump Fri 31-Jul-15 19:52:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

holdyourown Fri 31-Jul-15 19:52:27

The trouble is, he's worn you down once (getting the second date) and he thinks he will do it again. You have to be very firm and clear, eg you could text I do not want to see or hear from you again, and then just delete and block. Does he know where you live?

Goodbyemylove Fri 31-Jul-15 19:55:16

He knows my road but not the number. He doesn't live locally so hope he would never be in my area.

woowoo22 Fri 31-Jul-15 19:58:52

I would log with 101.

CamelHump Fri 31-Jul-15 20:06:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Goodbyemylove Fri 31-Jul-15 20:09:30

I didn't tell him my surname but I think it comes up on whatsapp?

Oh yes and he said he's 'pissed off now.'

Rosieliveson Fri 31-Jul-15 20:10:13

I think that's a bit scary. Maybe he's trying to be 'macho' and failing miserably.
Simply tell him via text that he was a nice man but you are not interested in seeing him again, romantically or otherwise. There is nothing more to discuss so please do not contact you again.
If he persists, warn him that you are logging the details with the police as harassment as you have been more than clear.
Or, of course, block and completely ignore any future contact.

DownAtFraggleRock Fri 31-Jul-15 20:12:48


someone clearly told him women like to be 'chased' hmm

loveyoutothemoon Fri 31-Jul-15 20:25:33

Oh dear. Report him on the dating site. He knows the road in which you live? Don't answer the door if he comes knocking. If you blocked his number how did he contact you on whatsapp?

RubbishMantra Fri 31-Jul-15 20:29:37

shock I was going to say YIKES! but FraggleRock beat me to it.

101 is your friend.

How can folk be anything but creeped out by this kind of behaviour?

Turquoisoceans Fri 31-Jul-15 20:30:12

Call the police. Weirdo alert x

Goodbyemylove Fri 31-Jul-15 20:40:16

Maybe I'd unblocked him by then. What I worry about with blocking is that I won't know what he's up to. I'd rather be one step ahead.

sebsmummy1 Fri 31-Jul-15 20:47:24

I think you need to say he is scaring you and if he continues to contact you you are going to have no choice but to contact the police regarding harassment. Then say you are logging every communication.

loveyoutothemoon Fri 31-Jul-15 20:53:54

Agree with sebsmummy

BolshierAyraStark Fri 31-Jul-15 21:44:42

Tell him you are not interested end of & if he continues to contact you then it will be logged & reported.

CalleighDoodle Fri 31-Jul-15 21:49:12

Change your whatsapp so your full name isnt on it. Make sure locations services are switched off your phone. Fb messages pin point your house if it is switched on. If you still can, report him to the OLD site for harrassment. Then block his number on your phone.

Goodbyemylove Fri 31-Jul-15 21:53:39

Thanks for that calleigh. I will do that now.

FuckingLiability Fri 31-Jul-15 21:58:29

Calling 101 is OTT. Tell him bluntly (not apologetically) that you're not interested and you don't want him to contact you again, block him and move on.

From what the OP has said, it's not like he's threatened to stake out her home until she gives in, he's just tried too hard and got it wrong.

Hissy Sat 01-Aug-15 00:47:44

Block him and ignore him, do not engage at all.

If he does not respect that, then absolutely call 101 to ask for advice, they will ask him to back off or harassment Charges can be brought.

Reubs15 Mon 03-Aug-15 20:33:55

Please log with 101 just in case x

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