Hi....gonna try and narrow this down as best I can. Met a guy 8mths ago only to find out he still lives with ex...I accepted the situation due to the financial aspect of his circumstances..yes he is in the process of saving and moving out. We are both saving for a place of our own. We did see each other every week but we are a 2 hour drive and so eventually with much tears and heartache agreed to see each other every other week to help with saving and seeing his daughters and family..Now there has been times in the past where I have been dumped last minute due to his daughter visiting which is a 5hour drive and he never knows when she is coming because the ex doesn't ever say. On one occasion he planned to spend a day with his other daughter (both are in mid 20s) who lives at home, only to wake that morning to find she was just leaving the house to attend a wedding, which he knew nothing about again. So we lost a weekend together. I have now reached a point where I feel that our plans should not be sacrificed to accommodate his daughters, espcially when communication is dysfunctional in this family, I don't see why I should be dropped because him and his ex are so beyond broken that she can not see herself right as to tell the father of their children when the daughter at a 5hour drive away is coming to visit...am I at fault here by saying enough, that I can't take anymore let downs, especially as I have planned my weekend with him and I at least appreciate that my friends and family cannot accomodate me on a whim because I have been dumped on the very day I am to spend with my boyfriend. He says if his daughter turns up he will see her instead..but I think his daughter shouldn't just turn up and expect..my children would not do this to me...they have lives and so do I.. obviously if there was an emergency I would have no problem...I would drop all if my family had an emergency, as I would expect him to do the same .isn't that just healthy balanced living..or am wrong!
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