I don't know if I've posted this in the right place, but any way. My bf wants to take our 4 week old baby to football match on Saturday. I think this is far to young to be going. However when I expressed my feelings it was if I was being irrational and over worrying for not letting him go. I'd just like to know other people's thoughts?
I can't see any reason why this appeals to him at all, other than to use the baby as some sort of trophy; "look at me! What a cool dad I am! No baby gets in the way of my football!"
I'm all for getting babies to fit into your life where you can, and I think I did things when my babies were tiny that others wouldn't want to do - out to dinner with DD at 4 days old, for example - but this just sounds silly and needless.
He just doesn't seem to think logically and just want to show him to his friends which I can understand. I asked if there wasn't another way around it. I also said it will be much better for him to go when he actually understands what is going on. BF didn't understand why I was getting upset over him going, which in turn made me more annoyed that he wasn't understanding my pov.
Mine went at that age - in fact one of them was younger I think. It was absolutely fine. I really don't see how it's any different to taking them to a picnic or a coffee morning with friends. I think it's lovely that he wants to take the baby along with him and I really don't understand what everyone is getting so upset about.
I wouldn't. No. My husband took our baby out for the day at 6 weeks. The difference was he wasn't among screaming crowds and didn't have to fight his way through hoards to get to any baby changing facilities.
Fight through hoards? He'll walk to the end of a seated aisle, back through a quiet tunnel, and if changing facilities are easily reached, pop the mat on the floor in the refreshment area and do what parents do. It's probably quieter during a game than walking through a shopping centre!
Because it's nice to show them off. Because it's nice to get on with your life - and sometimes a necessity, though I know football isn't. Because many babies love getting out and about? Because it's bonding for a parent and baby to spend time together? 90 minutes of 1:1 cuddles and daddy whispering commentary to his child? I think it's lovely!
Depends on the match. If it's your local league team, and he normally would pop own there on a weekend, then it's as nice a place for a walk out in the fresh air as anywhere else. Same as going for a walk down to the park, but this way he will see his mates. Probably a proud new Dad, wanting to show off his new baby - I wouldn't have a problem with that (as long as it's not chucking it down with rain). If, however, you are talking about a Premier League stadium, then it's just ridiculous.
What sort of football match is it? That makes a big difference in my opinion.
Is it a premiership game with a large capacity crowd, or is it a local small team with a low capacity crowd.
Can totally understand the latter, but the former (I do attend premiership football matches, fairly regularly) is not a suitable environment in my opinion. I myself sometimes feel crushed in the crowd and indeed, I have only recently recovered from a ruptured Achilles tendon and would not have gone to a game without being fully recovered. Not the same as having a baby strapped to you, but the general idea is that I felt "vulnerable" and so should anyone with a baby in a sling in that environment.
So, is it a big match or a small local team.
A small local team with a few friendly supporters and plenty of space I think would be lovely for OH to show off his pride and joy!
I think it depends whether it is a quieter, low level local match or a big busy premier league shebang? If it is a local match then i think no problem. Any big match where there is potential for lots of jostling and violence then i would say no.
I think it sound lovely myself but I am expecting my first in January so no real experience. Assuming he loves his son or daughter and is not an idiot he will know if it's not working. Is it a local match? That won't be as full on as a premiership game and they all seem to have family sections these days.
Football isn't my sport, but I'm fairly sure I took my pfb to a rugby match at a similar age. I think it would depend a bit on the match, I wouldn't want them to go to a match with 'needle'. Easier a newborn than a toddler! My 3 yo was desparate to go to football (her childminder is a passionate fan and the local team logo is everywhere in that house) - her dad took her to a youth team match - local team vs big premiership team dh supports. They only stayed for the first half (it was free) and although i think she got a bit bored, they both seemed happy. Do you think bf would compromise with a less popular fixture?
I've only experienced jostling at a premier league match as everyone is leaving. So, sit back and chat to baby for 10 minutes, pointing to the ground and telling him he might play there one day, til the rush clears. Sorted