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Octopush13 · 29/07/2015 19:32

Would quite like a steer on acceptable social media norms. I do not think it is acceptable to share photos/videos of my children with prospective dates, especially as they are men. But my ex has been sharing photos and videos of my kids with women online, at least via Facebook tagging them in posts or sharing. I have told him that I do not like this. He says, since the videos and photos are on his Facebook anyway what's the difference...I think he has also shares photos etc via Whatsapp, Messenger because he said something like 'they sent me pic of their kids first...'

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pocketsaviour · 29/07/2015 19:36

It's a pretty pathetic attempt to say "Look what a responsible and loving dad I am! Don't you want to shag me?!" to anyone he tags, IMO.

It's very annoying, I understand that, but I don't think there's anything you can do about it.

Hopefully one of these women will comment "Why are you tagging me in this you weirdo" and dump him, and he'll stop.

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Octopush13 · 29/07/2015 19:40

I think you're right. I just find it so creepy and really hope he hasn't gone as far as putting their lovely little faces on any dating sites :-(

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rumpler · 29/07/2015 19:49

"especially as they are men"

What ?

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Octopush13 · 29/07/2015 20:07

Rumpler...I mean there are double standards (I think). If I sent photos of my kids to prospective male dates, generally I think people, including my ex, would think that was a least a bit weird, at worst dangerous. But sending pics to a prospective female date? Well my ex at least thought that was quite cute, although don't.

Rumpler, Do you think there's no difference between prospective male/female? I don't. Is it ok to send photos of children to either or to neither?

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rumpler · 29/07/2015 20:48

I'd go for neither tbh. Their gender isn't a factor, but whether they're potentially harmful people is.

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Octopush13 · 29/07/2015 21:08

I would go for neither too.

Just ex seemed to think that him sending photos of the kids to online-potential hook-ups/sex-text mates/possible paedos in disguised women is OK. If you don't know them, then I think like all social media, then you shouldn't send photos of your kids to them. Ex, as always, disagrees.