ExH and I split two months ago, he moved out five weeks ago. We have three DC aged 5, 4 and 3. It was a fairly amicable split, I raised the concept of us splitting initially. I'm not bitter or jealous in any way, the marriage had been doomed for a good two years by the time it ended and I hadn't been in love with him for that amount of time. It was a relief when he moved out if I'm honest.
Anyway he met somebody else around three weeks after we split. He professes to already be madly in love with her despite them only being together for five weeks, his choice of course. He moved in with her and her two children last week which I thought was far too soon especially considering her children's father had only left a week previously! But obviously that's their lives, her children and not my place to say anything.
However ExH now wants to introduce our children to her and her children. I think it's all way too soon. I suggested he be with her for at least six months before introducing the DC to her primarily because if their relationship does end and/or she doesn't turn out to be who he thinks she is (because lets face it after five weeks how much can you really KNOW about someone?!) it will confuse the DC. I think it's a big deal introducing DC to a new partner, he seems to think I'm being ridiculous and this is how quickly most people do it. He's spoken to a lot of people he knows anyway and they all agree with him that I'm being silly about the whole thing...
So he's insistent that they will meet his new partner on Friday. There's not really much I can do about it. I'm just wondering how to prepare them for this and also I guess I'm looking for other experiences, opinions, whether I'm entirely in the wrong for thinking it's all very rushed...
I'm just exhausted with fighting him over it by this point. I'm worried about it having some sort of impact on the DC because they're still fairly confused by daddy not being in the house full time, when will they be seeing him next and all the rest so I'm concerned this is going to throw them off kilter even more.
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ExH wanting to introduce DC to new girlfriend
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Mousefinkle · 29/07/2015 17:41
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