NC, sorry.
DP has a bit of a problem with his behaviour when drunk, (generally being an arse) but he accepted this and he stopped getting so drunk and has been fine for months.
Then yesterday he got very drunk and did some very silly things (not violence), but we ended up thrown out of pub, he stomped home, went to sleep. He was saying he's no good for me and that he'll leave this morning, go and stay with his parents, even though he loves me to bits, and being very down and depressed but angry, if you see what I mean. Not angry with me, angry with himself.
He just woke up, put his shoes on, didn't say a word to me and went outside, I assumed for a cigarette. He was ages so I went out to see and
He's gone! Car's gone. He's taken nothing - not his phone, not his tablet, not his phone, nothing, just keys, car and his wallet.
I'm worried sick. I can't contact him. I don't know if he's just gone for a drive to think about things, or buggered off and left me (but why take nothing), or gone to kill himself or something (imagination running wild here).
What do I do? I know police won't be interested as missing person after 15 minutes. Should I leave it an hour (driving time to get there) and ring his parents or ring them now? They are retired and I don't want to worry them if he's just gone for a drive. Should I text all his friends using his phone? (I don't know them all that well, don't have their numbers directly). Not sure which ones to contact, only really know a few of them and there's loads of numbers in there. I'm worried about causing him trouble contacting random contacts that turn out to be from work or something. I could pick out the few I know.
I'm scared he's doing something silly (although he hasn't threatened to). I'm upset he's worried me like this. Is it just a big gesture and I should wait for him to come back? But in the past he was very down and depressed at times, worryingly so, he hates himself and thinks he's worthless when he's like it. Last night he kept saying how useless his is and I'd be better off without him.
What the hell do I do?
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DP driven off with nothing - worried about him
dontknowwhereheis · 26/07/2015 12:02
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