Because I think OH and I have decided. We had a big discussion a few days ago and came to a decision that it would be best if we don't. I'm 30 and he is 40 and he has never wanted children, he mentioned something at the beginning of our relationship about liking the "idea" of children. I felt broody at the time (I was 27) but as time has gone by this feeling has disappeared. I honestly think id make a terrible mother, I have depression and so did my mum (much worse than myself and had to spend time in hospital) and witnessing her struggle with me was scary. I don't have a "support network" my oh'a parents are old and don't want the hassle (and have told he this) my dad is miles away and the only parent/family member left alive or that I have any contact with. The little contact I do have with him doesn't really constitute him helping me with a baby.
Our house is small but we could move in theory.
I'm certain OH won't change his mind over this although I have worried, that one day he could run off with a 25 year old and have lots of kids!! This may be irrational but it would be easy for him, after all.
I also worry that he might one day think "what's the point" in having a relationship if children aren't involved and that he may as we'll be alone - not entirely sure why I think this way.
Would it be unreasonable to suggest the snip, since then I can at least stop taking hormonal contraceptives.....?
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Anyone made the decision in their late 20's/early 30's to *not* have children?
Toohotcats · 23/07/2015 11:46
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