After fancying my colleague for 5 years and never doing anything about it, he has suddenly been transferred to another department. The last time we spoke there was a definite connection. He was giving off lots of signals, I wasn't imagining things. Now I have lost my chance, hhaven't I?
I want him to contact me, but I know it's not going to happen. I'm not the type to make the first move.
Shy bairns get nowt! If he's moved to another department you've nothing to lose in casually suggesting a meet up over a coffee or whatever for old time's sake. If he puts it off, message received loud and clear. If he wants to meet up then you're in gal! Maybe he's keen but scared to make the first move?
Hope you're getting on with your move okay. Bit funny now having you around. He will either be pleased that you've contacted him and reply, or not bothered and won't I would think. Fortune favours the brave. Go for it!
I don't have his email. He was in a managerial position, I'm not, so we never had reason to email. It would seem odd and stalkerish if I were to start emailing him when I never had reason to email before.
Actually I'd say his move has made it a whole lot easier, as dating someone you work closely with can be very awkward on a professional level, and even worse on a personal level if the relationship goes wrong.
I am sure you can get his contact details from the company internal web, or failing that it must be possible to for reception to put you through to his work phone number.
You only live once. Assuming he is single email or call. At worst he'll be flattered, at best he'll be delighted. You have nothing to lose.
It would only be stalkerish if you bombarded him with unwanted attention, which you obviously are in no danger of doing.
"Hey - just wondering how the new job is going? I hope that they are being nice to you. Not a lot has changed here. Susieis now so pregnant that I have started googling "how to deliver a baby" every time she takes a deep breath.* Lucy's birthday today so I'm trying to convince myself that the strawberry jam in the Victoria sponge is one of my five a day.** Lol Wellthisisstrange
* Only really appropriate if you have a pregnant colleague called Susie ** Only really appropriate if your workplace is obsessed with cake. (Although in my experience all workplaces are obsessed with cake!)
You've been watching too many chick flicks. Nothing is "meant to be" unless you go for it. You make your own luck. Both DH and the bloke I dated before him were convinced they sought me out. Fools. Bwahahaha.