My bf has really poor personal hygiene and I need to talk about it with him but I don't know how.
We've been together 5 years, at first it was fine but gradually its got worse and worse. In this time hes moved out of home and when he first moved out it was also fine but its been getting worse and worse to the stage where I really struggle to be close to him. I should have spoken to him sooner because now I'm scared to upset him.
He only showers every 3 days or so, his hair is often greasy and he never cuts it. Its a relief when I see him and hes clean. He doesn't always use proper antiperspirant, he wears clothes 4 or 5 days running so they look grimy and smell. When he does wash them he doesn't dry them properly. He doesn't often change his bed sheets (once a month maybe), he doesn't clean hos kitchen or bathroom and its honestly gross, i would rather go to the loo in the garden than his toilet, he houseshares so its 3 persons grime too. He hasn't vacuumed his room in months. He also only cleans his teeth once a fay maybe less (which ive tried to address in a jokey manner as I'm a dental student so have been telling him what should be done but he thinks he knows best and they only need brushing once a day). The last straw was when I visited him and there was a pile of dirty tissues by his bed right next to the bin.
Hes like a 12 year old teenage boy but hes 23. Hes got a job and I worry a colleague is going to have to speak to him Surely he should know to keep basic personal hygiene by now!
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charliethebear · 21/07/2015 12:53
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