I need to let someone down gently and I'm not sure what to say. We met online, had a great date followed by great sex, which I assumed was (and was happy for it to be) a one night thing. He called the next day to check I'd got home okay, after I left early in the morning, which was sweet. There was a very vague mention of meeting again sometime but no definite plans. All good. He had made a few comments about not being the settling type and I took him at his word.
Then I came down with an ear infection (a judgment on you, I hear some of you cry ). In the middle of this he asked me out again. I told him I was sick but said we should talk in a few days, which I shouldn't have done, but I was feeling dreadful and couldn't face nipping things in the bud. Well, since then he's been really sweet, asking after me and sending funny links to cheer me up, and has said a few times that he's looking forward to seeing me again.
I feel awful, but I just don't want to! He is sexy and articulate but there are things about him that I wouldn't cope with in a boyfriend. Moreover, an old friend of mine asked me out over the weekend, and I think I might like him quite a lot.
Basically, without meaning to be unkind, I've strung my online date along. How on earth do I say to him that he's great but not for me? I can't tell him there was no spark - there was spark! - just no lasting fire. Is it better to mention my friend, or make some other excuse?
For the record, I have no children to distress by my occasional flings. I'm usually here for the style and beauty advice
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Feawen · 20/07/2015 22:56
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