OK, need some hand-holding and basic advice with this. I've just come out of a 10-year marriage, am early 40s. I've never done OD before because it wasn't really around when I was single and in fact the idea fills me with unalloyed horror, if I'm honest.
But I'm also grown-up enough to know that there's no point sitting around waiting to meet someone and that you kind of have to play the game etc.
I'm probably not quite ready yet -- H only moved out just over two months ago and while I'm feeling OK in general I'm aware that it may be a bit early. But I want to do a bit of research so that when I am ready its not a total minefield.
And I'm aware, from being on here and from chatting to friends, that you need to be quite thick-skinned. I'm OK with this but I guess it would be helpful to get some advice on avoiding sites where people are going to be massively superficial or just treat it like an online meat market.
So, I want some advice on the best site to choose if you're
a) not looking to be inundated with d*heads who are just looking for a shag and will randomly send you intimate pictures of body parts
b) not looking for something very earnest and full of people who are going to bore you stupid about their enthusiasm for yoga
c) I'm not especially concerned about demographics (i.e. I don't have a veto on non-professionals or anything like that), but would like to meet people who can read and write and hold an intelligent conversation before I agree to meet them.
I also need some advice about what to put up on your profile etc. I'm not sure I'm massively comfortable with having a photo up there but I guess its kind of a given unless you want to either be ignored or meet freaks? Is there any way to get away with not having a photo and it still be worthwhile? And is there a way to maintain a degree of anonymity with OD? I don't massively want my colleagues and acquaintances knowing I'm on there if it can be avoided.
Basic info would be appreciated -- I don't know the first thing about this.
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