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I need help my wife has cheated on me

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Davemills1972 Mon 20-Jul-15 18:04:32

Help please ladies I need a woman's opinion,

My wife went on holiday for her 40th and called me one night to say she fancied a threesome, in a moment of madness I said go for it just use condoms and keep it to yourself. I never thought she would do it!

When she came home the first night we have fantastic sex however the following day she confessed she had done it however with no protection!! She said she had booked an std clinic visit for 10 days time and only had sex with me so I didn't think anything was wrong. Since then we have talked and she told me she would never lie to me again. Last night she told me she had moved her appointment and then today confessed she hadn't.

I don't mind the fact she had another man/men but to do it unprotected and then sleep with me so she didn't have to confess and then 3 days later lie again, what do I do.

Help I feel awful I love her but I don't know how to go on with my life...

ptumbi Mon 20-Jul-15 18:05:40

Ummm.....What?

CharleyDavidson Mon 20-Jul-15 18:07:36

It's not cheating if you gave her permission, is it?

What2do1984 Mon 20-Jul-15 18:11:16

you gave her permission ? ok she should have told you before having sex with you she hadnt used protection but if she had she had no confession to make as you told her to do it @ she probably thought u didnt care ..

FenellaFellorick Mon 20-Jul-15 18:12:40

Get tested and don't sleep with her until she has.

lastnightiwenttomanderley Mon 20-Jul-15 18:16:31

From your discussions about timing and 'not confessing' are you thinking that she was concerned in case she was pregnant?

lastnightiwenttomanderley Mon 20-Jul-15 18:18:36

Your comment about timing and 'not confessing'...is there a concern about pregnancy added into this as well?

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