I've got this thing I feel so sick and nervous when I think about him I loose all concentration and can't think straight his the same from what his told me problem is his my boss at work and we know we have to be so carful I just don't know what to do with my self just needed to vent I think
You don't have to be careful, you need to be an adult.
You: are we going to give this a go? Him: no You: right-o <get over it, no need to be careful>
You: are we going to give this a go? Him: yes You & Him: speak to his boss and HR about work issues, if one of you needs to move team (hint: if it's you, only do it if it's neutral or positive for your career) <no need to be careful>
Loads of people meet at work. Don't create a needless drama.
But someone who starts with the need to be careful? I call affair, or on his part - casual secret.