I'd just like to start by asking you to be kind. I'm feeling a bit sensitive at the moment and I'm willing to be told that I'm in the wrong, just please be nice about it. Also, I'm not sure I've posted this in the right section, it just seemed to be the most appropriate.
Basically the problem is that I'm bored. I know its a major first world problem and most people have worse things going on.
Bit of background,... DP and I have been together 6 years. We have an almost 2 year old and a 3.10 year old. I'm a sahm but I work on Saturdays. DP used to work full time until a few months ago but due to a injury had to take a few months off. He will be starting his new job in a months time. We are both in our mid 20s. Not sure if all of that will be relevant but I don't want to drip feed.
We've finally got to the stage where the children are both past the baby stage and all the breastfeeding and co sleeping has come to an end. They can be put to bed at 7pm and won't wake up for at least a few hours. Since DC1 has been born, we've been out for one meal. That was about 18 months ago! Fair enough back then, the kids were little and due to breastfeeding and co sleeping we couldn't really leave them. our eldest also had extremely bad separation anxiety. But now there is absolutely no reason why we couldn't pay a babysitter to sit in the house while we went out for a drink or a meal or something.
Anyway, I'll get to the point, DP just doesn't really want to. He's just happy to sit in the house and watch Netflix every single night. I sit in our bedroom watching stuff on the tablet because I've got nothing else to do. If I try and talk to him, I get annoyed because it takes him a minute to answer me because he's too busy on his phone or watching TV. it's like he doesn't want to speak to me. I suggest going out and he pretends to be all up for it until I come to arranging it and then he's tired or can't be bothered or needs to stay in for whatever reason. We've been spending so much time together recently as hes been off work, but its always with the kids. I just want to do some adult only things once a month/6 weeks.
I don't have any proper friends. I've tried but I'm not from here and I've just given up now. I live in large village and its hard to be accepted here, so I can't even go out with other people. DP goes out once a week with his friends so I'm coming to the conclusion that it must be me. Whenever I try to talk about it, he just says that I'm bored all the time and its not normal.
It's not just the evenings that he doesn't like going out. We normally get our shopping delivered as we live out in the middle of nowhere. The other week I lied and said they didn't have any delivery slots left so we would have to actually go and do the shopping ourselves, just so that we didn't have to stay in again. I don't drive so I can't even go out myself. I am just so desperately lonely.
Because of my job, I can't increase my hours. it's a one day only thing. I have been looking for something with more hours though.
so I need to know am I relying on DP too much or is he boring? I do realise that we have kids and we can't be going out to wild parties every night of the week, but other couples with young children still manage to go out once in while don't they? Am I honesty asking for too much?
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Is DP boring or do I rely on him too much for entertainment?
LateDay · 19/07/2015 21:54
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