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6 weeks NC + hypnotherapy = getting over him!

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ohlamour Sun 19-Jul-15 16:44:59

I've posted a couple of threads about how i split with my P if almost 2 yrs & how awful going NC was... I have been yearning & crying all the time & basically became fixated on him to the detriment of my health.
on Friday i went to see a qualified hypnotherapist & it was FANTASTIC. She has really helped turn things around for me & amazingly the yearning has been replaced by a calmness & acceptance that i never thought i would feel. I am going back to see her again in a couple of weeks as i need to work on boundaries & self esteem.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that it IS possible to let go if you really want to & that, even if you are sceptical, hypnotherapy can work!
To all the MN ladies who are struggling to let go: keep up the NC, keep the negative energy out of your life & stay strong. It is possible...! smile

hollieberrie Sun 19-Jul-15 17:45:20

Ooh i'm so interested in this. Would you mind me asking how you found your therapist? She's not anywhere near London is she?

I'm seriously thinking of trying it. Did you feel calmer straight away? I've been NC for 6 months but still feel so stuck and sad.

Well done for starting to move on :-)

ohlamour Sun 19-Jul-15 17:51:53

Hi Hollie! No, nowhere near London, sorry. I found her by doing a local search, read her profile & chatted on the phone first. I really liked her on the phone. She actually did IEMT (Integral eye movement therapy) on me & the effect was stunning & immediate. Can't even begin to explain what it felt like! We also did the more traditional hypnotherapy method. It has been a revelation, honestly. From obsessing every minute to hardly thinking about him. It's been a massive relief for me.
Try looking up someone locally & make sure you have a chat before committing. Wishing you lots of luck! smile

hollieberrie Sun 19-Jul-15 19:13:05

Thanks ohlamour. Really good to hear your expierence and im pleased it working out so well for you. I am definitely going to look into giving it a go!

ohlamour Sun 19-Jul-15 22:11:53

Good luck Hollie - definitely worth a try smile !

laurierf Sun 19-Jul-15 23:11:28

I'll be honest and say I tried hypnotherapy to quit smoking on the recommendation of a friend for whom it worked overnight… and it did nothing for me (cold turkey and self-straighttalking was the only thing going to work in the end as it turned out). BUT I'm so pleased hypnotherapy has helped you as I was for my friend for whom it worked too. Had no idea how common these feelings were until the 'limerence' thread on here… and I totally agree with this: "keep up the NC, keep the negative energy out of your life & stay strong. It is possible…!"… even if the hypnotherapy is not the complete solution (I'm sure it helps on some level anyway) and you have to do some willpower too.

Keep going star

WankySeahorse Mon 20-Jul-15 12:10:32

How are you feeling now ohlamour? Still no intrusive thoughts? I'm going to try this for sure, thanks for sharing.

ohlamour Mon 20-Jul-15 18:42:50

Hi wankyseahorse! Sorry for late reply, been travelling today. I'd be lying in i said i wasn't thinking about him, however it is a much more rational thought process. Yes i still feel sad & yes i still think about him BUT it's not as all consuming & taking over my life. I really can't explain it! But i guess its a more 'grown up' thought process rather than the panicky child thoughts i was experiencing. I can cope with it now, which i was struggling with before. Hope that makes sense!

WankySeahorse Mon 20-Jul-15 19:03:00

I'm really happy for you , what a relief. Long may it continue . Well I'm game to try. I contacted a hypnotherapist today and she also suggested trying mindfulness meditation. I just want to move past this stage of my life now . I've grieved the end of this relationship long ago ... Enough with running commentary in my brain now ! I truly believe that this is a form of OCD . Good luck ... Glad to hear you're so upbeat still smile

ohlamour Mon 20-Jul-15 19:29:08

Thanks WS! Definitely give it a try! It's horrible to live with & anything worth a try to get life (& headspace!!) back xxx

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