What do you put wrt your body type? I've always selected "a few pounds over" but felt this was misleading as I undeniably big. Recently I changed my selection to BBW and have had a few nice messages. The thing is, I've also had messages from men instantly asking about my size, saying how much they love bigger women....is it me or is that a bit odd?
You'll probably get more replies as a BBW than "a few pounds over". Some men will specifically seek women of that body type (whether your size being fetishised or not is a good thing is open to debate) but few will seek out "a few pounds over" but many will write you off for it.
Interesting, BadLad. The fetish aspect of it bugs me. I am the size I am but it's something I want to rejoice in! That's why the guys who instantly started asking about my size made me a bit But I think you're right about the few pounds over thing. Thanks all!
I'd be put off by people focussing on physical too. A compliment is one thing, but if they're entirely fixed on that, they're seeing you as something to have sex with rather than a person. I feel the same way about men who even hint at sex in emails.
You are the size you are, just state that. As mentioned above by someone else there are plenty of men out there who prefer the larger lady.
When I was internet dating it did annoy me when I met people who had clearly bullshitted on their profile or used out of date photos. I am not attracted to stick thin women, always preferred the curvy / hour glass look but it did piss me off when someone who had declared themselves 'curvy' or 'a few pounds over' or even 'average' when they were clearly not. Its just a waste of everyones time.
Be honest and you will get the right bloke who likes you as you are.
I was a size 18/20 and I put a few pounds over because I didn't want to be put into the more fetish side of BBW. However, I was sure to include a couple of full length pics so they knew what "a few" actually meant.
Both approaches have their pros and cons. I have always gone for BBW category as I have varied between size 20-26 when online dating. Always include at least one full-length photo on your profile and make sure it's an honest one, if you know what I mean.
You will have to weed out a few feeder fetishists but as for men who specifically like large women - I think that's just a preference. After all if you got a group of men all hitting on a woman with a slim figure - say size 10-12 - you wouldn't say they had a fetish, would you?