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First night away together..what do I take!

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louloo8 Fri 17-Jul-15 23:01:02

We aren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet. He has booked a hotel for the night in a different part of the country and we are going for dinner. I've never stayed overnight with a guy before (except at their house) and have no idea what to take. I don't want to take a mini suitcase Incase it looks too much haha so do I just pack the essentials for the morning after - change of outfit, make up etc. sorry if this sounds a bit dumb but I'm so nervous but also so excited for a whole night away together!! smile x

goddessofsmallthings Fri 17-Jul-15 23:13:11

Toiletries, hairbrush, make-up + change of outfit for the following day should fit into a small holdall or, if the change of outfit doesn't amount to much more than a dress, a large handbag/briefcase.

You'll also need a selection of board games, playing cards, Kindle or half a dozen books/magazines in case he can't get it up you have a disagreement. grin

cocobean2805 Sat 18-Jul-15 02:43:55

Toiletries, make up/remover/wipes. Pyjamas, clothes for evening, next day. Hairdryer? I'd be inclined to make sure to pack condoms (don't rely on him!) And a bottle of wine! Take a book/tablet/kindle (and earphones) he may fall asleep before you and you don't want to be bored if he drops off and you're sat twiddling your thumbs!

OneDayWhenIGrowUp Sat 18-Jul-15 03:04:43

Toiletries, makeup, hairbrush, outfit for next day, extra spare pair of knicks just in cases, condoms, lube, surprise sex toy if that's your kind of thing wink, book/phone charger etc for self-entertainment if needed.


dontknowwhat2callmyself Sat 18-Jul-15 09:16:27

How about a small cabin size suitcase you can't fit a lot in them anyway but would be perfect for overnight?

pocketsaviour Sat 18-Jul-15 09:52:28

I would take a holdall size bag. Everything you'd normally pack if you were going away for the night, plus condoms, lube, sex toys if you're into it, and a pair of robust ear plugs or noise cancelling headphones in case he snores.

HermioneWeasley Sat 18-Jul-15 09:57:32

You're not boyfriend or girlfriend, but you're going away and sharing a room, and there's an expectation of sex? If you haven't kissed yet, how do you know you'll be happy to share a bed with him? Do you have your own transport and enough funds to pay for a room if you decide you don't want to stay with him?

Assuming your chemistry is smokin' I would take essential toiletries (assume hotel will provide soap, shampoo etc), condoms, lube, sexy nightdress, change of clothes for next day.

Hope it goes well.

SurlyCue Sat 18-Jul-15 10:04:22


louloo8 Sat 18-Jul-15 10:07:29

Hermoine we are seeing each other but nothing "official" as such! I stayed with him numerous occasions it's just a bit different going away together smile

truthaboutlove Sat 18-Jul-15 10:22:33

I would leave the pyjamas.

TwinPiques Sat 18-Jul-15 11:24:39

Don't take a book. Nothing says, I don't hold out much hope for tonight than a selection of reading material.

Pack very light. You don't need more than a casual overnight bag.

Wear jeans/skirt, and take a top for Day 2
underwear x 2 (nice undie set for dinner; fresh pants for Day 2; maybe a spare pair in case of some weird emergency)
toilet bag (with condoms)
(pared-down) make up bag
nightwear only if you've of the 'what if there's a fire?' persuasion (in which case, there will be sheets/dressing gowns to wrap yourself in, both of which will make you look more intriguing/sexy to fellow guests than a stout pair of wincyette pjs)

And that's it. Get your hair done/do your hair and style out the next-day bed head look rather than carting half a salon's worth of dryer/shampoo/serum, etc with you. Two pairs of shoes max, unless hotel also has assault course and you think you might need trainers.

Maybe your bikini if there's a spa? I'm always torn on spas in hotel minibreaks. On the one hand, a massage is nice as is a dip in the pool, but on the other, if you've gone for minimal packing, there's a high Frizz Risk in wafting around in steamy atmospheres, and hotel dryers/mini shampoos are no one's friend.

TwinPiques Sat 18-Jul-15 11:25:24

Oh yes, and obviously, something gorgeous to wear for dinner!

HermioneWeasley Sat 18-Jul-15 11:45:29

Ah, ok, you're fuck buddies - now I get it.

Nice - enjoy your weekend away. I'm proper jealous! grin

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