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Is this the world's most cowardly shitty dumping text or what?

(65 Posts)
harryjustshagsally Fri 17-Jul-15 19:25:55

I just got dumped, by text, by a guy I've been seeing since April. I just think it is so cowardly. I'd rather him have just said 'You are just a mid thirties single mum, I'm just not that into you' than this cowardly rubbish.

'Sorry this is a bit late. Hope things aren't too trying with the police thing. Been thinking that maybe this isn't such a good idea. Talked to X (his best mate) and he thinks maybe we are not so good for each other. You have responsibilities, and I don't want to lead you back into bad habits just cos I'm fucked up. I really like you though, and I hope you won't think I'm a total arse or anything x'x'

Ugh. I had a little cry sad but now I'm just thinking he is a total arse. Please tell me its him and not me. I've got some major shit going on (hence police comment) and I was quite enjoying the distraction.

WhispersOfWickedness Fri 17-Jul-15 19:27:44

He's an arse. Hope things start looking up for you soon sadthankswine

harryjustshagsally Fri 17-Jul-15 19:27:55

Plus now I have to drink all the lovely German beer and all the delicious Brie and antipasti I bought for our date tonight. So fat and drunk and pissed I'm looking at!

MrsHathaway Fri 17-Jul-15 19:28:03

Fucking hell. What a prince. Listens to his mate rather than knowing his own mind.

Good riddance. Big gin. cake

DontKillMyVibe Fri 17-Jul-15 19:28:18

What bad habits is he talking about leading you back to?

Esmeismyhero Fri 17-Jul-15 19:28:26

It is cowardly, he can't make decisions himself? You deserve better op flowers

MrsHathaway Fri 17-Jul-15 19:28:34

Cross posted. Beer and cheese then!

chairmeoh Fri 17-Jul-15 19:29:20

Yup, cowardly and immature. I can't imagine he'd be a 'keeper', but sorry you're feeling sad at this ending.
Hope things soon turn brighter for you.

BusyCee Fri 17-Jul-15 19:29:43

He is le Grand Twattage, and you're well shot. Check out the penises in shoes thread. It'll cheer you up and put you right off a bit of cock at least for this evening

minkGrundy Fri 17-Jul-15 19:29:57

Shouldn't have done it by text. But does he have a point about being a bad habit

FenellaFellorick Fri 17-Jul-15 19:30:15

Yes. That's cowardly. Sorry thanks

What about texting back 'yes, I agree, it's not worth it. All the best, harry'

JohnFarleysRuskin Fri 17-Jul-15 19:30:28

Tell him that you've talked to x (your mate) and she said you're an arse. Oh well.

BusyCee Fri 17-Jul-15 19:30:33

(Hope things perk up for you. Have some Friday Wine)

paxtecum Fri 17-Jul-15 19:31:18

You are well rid.

Ashwinder Fri 17-Jul-15 19:34:04

He sounds cowardly, spineless and immature. He's dumping you but can't bear to be seen as the bad guy so he's trying to convince you its all for your own good. hmm Well, fuck that. Seriously OP. Have an enormous gin and a bit of a cry and then get on with your life. You're well shot of him.

minkGrundy Fri 17-Jul-15 19:34:05

Tell him that you've talked to x (your mate) and she said you're an arse. Oh well.

Tell him you talked to MN and everyone said he's an arse.

BusyCee Fri 17-Jul-15 19:36:37

Yy to what Mink said!

harryjustshagsally Fri 17-Jul-15 19:36:45

The bad habit thing is just about me going out with him and getting pissed once a week confused

I just replied 'Fair enough if that's how you feel.' I've left a phtsically abusive marriage, been involved in a police investigation against my childhood abuser and been made redundant. This has upset me more than it should given the above. But I suppose I've got to remain stoic.

harryjustshagsally Fri 17-Jul-15 19:37:54

*in the past 12 months that should say.

MrsHathaway Fri 17-Jul-15 19:43:14

Good response.

flowers to you. He's a minor mosquito you've just been able to whisk away.

SycamoreMum Fri 17-Jul-15 19:56:30

Fuck him. wineChin chin!

BolshierAyraStark Fri 17-Jul-15 20:12:36

Fuck him, he's a cowardly fuckwit & you deserve better.
Enjoy the beer & food.

paddymcgintysmum Fri 17-Jul-15 20:15:01

Sorry about your run of bad luck "Harry", but think on this before you get blotto.
Any man who would admit to being swayed by his mate to give up his girlfriend, is a twerp!
Hope things get better soon generally.

Finola1step Fri 17-Jul-15 20:15:41

Sod that!
But beware. He could well be the type to try a booty call at dime stage. Ignore.

Saltedcaramel2014 Fri 17-Jul-15 20:18:49

He sounds very immature, and it's crazy-making when someone asks you to make them feel better like he has (in his way of wanting you to say, nooo don't worry, still think you're a great guy really). You need strong people around you now, not someone who doesn't know his own mind and is scared of the tougher bits of life/a relationship. You'll find someone better. In the meantime - beer. Brie.

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