I have a reasonable relationship with my mother, but am seen as a bit of a black sheep in my family. Mum can do a fine line in guilt trips, and everything is all about her, revolves around the family home etc. She is big on occasions (Christmas, birthdays, anything and everything) and is a 'more the merrier' type of person although will then complain that she has everything to do, Bernard in the kitchen all day etc.
I have an older DB and DS both who rely on mum a great deal, spend most weekends at her house, involve her in everything. DB has some learning diff so needs the support. DS is single mum of 2.
I am married, 37, pregnant with 1st child. DM hs complained to DS that she has felt like she hasn't been involved with my pregnancy. DS lived with mum for one of hers, and mum attended every appointment with her and was at both births.
I have attended every appointment line apart from Dh coming to scans. I have been in hospital to be monitored twice for several hours, alone. Not because Dh won't come but because i am fine on my own and didn't see the need.
So mother has asked if i want her to come with me to Mw appointments, I have said no thank you. She does a sad face 'oh ok then'
And now is complaining to DS about not being involved. She expects to be at the birth. I know this but have avoided it. Thinking that i just won't tell her til after.
I've been booked for a c sec and not sure whether to tell her til after or not. She will expect to be there and i think id rather not tell her til after.
Any ideas on how to handle this? For info, the reason i don't want her there is that she makes every situation all about her and i gain no comfort from her in stressful circumstances. I end up annoyed with her and this is the one time i think it should be about me and dh.
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DM feeling 'left out' of my pregnancy.
Sparrowlegs248 · 16/07/2015 06:15
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