I feel bad worrying about this when I have a gorgeous child to be grateful for but I'd also now like my sex life back too! I had my lovely baby 10 weeks ago and had a vaginal delivery which required an episiotomy. It's taken a while to heal as my external stitches came open and I got an infection even though I was fastidious with hygiene. The site is just about feeling ok now even though there is still some raised scar tissue.
My husband has been very patiently waiting for us to resume sex and last night we decided to try it. I'm still self conscious about 'down there' since giving birth so there wasn't much foreplay. We used KY jelly but didn't get very far- sorry for TMI but only got a bit inside before I made him stop. I felt really upset afterwards- how will we ever resume having sex without a vicious cycling of me being scared of the pain so I can't relax, therefore exacerbating the situation? Giving up sex in my late 20sdoesnt feel like a solution! Any advice, bearing in mind we have a small baby?
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Will I ever have pain-free sex after episiotomy?
Blondie87 · 15/07/2015 13:52
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