First off I am incredibly depressed, so that may be colouring my view, but I literally cannot cope anymore.
Today an exercise bike turned up (two person lift, but courier left outside for me to carry in alone).
Not a problem? Wrong! It is the straw that broke the camel's back, and I want to leave, but have nowhere to go.
Our house is reasonably small (but not tiny). We have a conservatory, which was to be a 'family' space, but is only used by DH. He smokes in it, rendering it unusable by anyone else. It also contains cabinets for his business.
We have (had) a dining room. The table was dumped, and DH uses it for sorting out stock. I do have a worktable for myself in there, but it is covered with DH's stock. There are also several cabinets of stock in there too.
As soon as you open the front door there are boxes of stock (which do disappear on days DH trades). They take up the hall.
So we have a front room which is the only space without stock in (even our bedroom has some in).
Now none of this bothers me as much as it sounds. I accept it, and am supportive.
What has royally pissed me off? I love to exercise... really, really do. But whenever I do DH moans about 'housework' I should be doing (I also have to help him out on days he trades). I can only do it when DC is at school, as DH thinks it unfair on her to do it when she wants to watch TV or play.
I have a vibrating plate thingy (which you do exercises on), and it is in the bedroom, as there "isn't space for it anywhere". So it's totally inacessible. I have a (tiny) trampoline, which has been put in the shed and is now rusty and mouldy, as there "isn't room in the house" for it. My weights were also put in the shed as they "got in the way", and I have no idea where they are.
Yet - there is now an exercise bike, and there is going to be room for it!!! I am so pissed off I am literally crying. The one thing I loved has been made impossible, yet DH who has lots of space in the house, is going to add to it.
I have put on a lot of weight since I stopped exercising (and have become increasingly down), which is worse as I take psychiatric meds notorious for weight gain.
I can't understand DH's sudden interest in exercise - he's suddenly taking more interest in his appearance altogether. Not for my benefit certainly, we never have sex, and this has led me to sleeping on the floor in DC's room, as the rejection was making me so down.
Another thing - DH does no housework, and we are seriously hard up, so to spend precious money on something that is expensive seems ridiculously selfish.
And no, I do not want to use it too. I want my stuff - in my space, and with time to do it.
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confuseddazed · 14/07/2015 09:18
You sleep on the floor in your dc's room? 
Reclaim your bedroom, and your 'vibrating plate thingy', by chucking the stock that's cluttering it into the smoke-ridden conservatory and make up a bed for your h on top of it there.
Better still, reclaim your life by chucking him out.
There is no exercise bike
When opened it was some storage for stock
I honestly thought it was a bike, as he'd been looking at them, the box was very, very heavy, and it looked like it was sealed from the manafacturer.
Everything else is true, but he hasn't bought a bike
It sounds like you need some time on your own to reevaluate your feelings. The relationship sounds dead 
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