Long story short. I've decided I need to walk away from my 6 year marriage. It's been hard for a long time. Nothing sudden but just getting worse. Am growing increasingly stressed, lonely and lost.
DH has a good job, Mortgage on our house and another rental property. We've lived fairly comfortably. My children are still young (5,3,1)
We are past talking. We don't talk at all.
We are in separate rooms.
We are basically playmates.
Tried to leave last summer but he convinced us he'd change and wanted us back. (stayed at my mums)
DH is a workaholic I think and goes out 5.30am, comes in 9/10 pm and continues working.
He has always been this way but am finding it intolerable that he does not have 2 mins to spend with the kids, let alone myself.
At weekends, he sits in his room working. We don't have meals together either.
My youngest has severe eczema and is not sleeping atm and it's taking it's toll. I don't think I can manage it on my own any more. I'm getting about 4 hours sleep a night and I'm exhausted. H never helps out and I'm desperate for a break.
I don't have any friends or family here where we live really. (moved for his work a few years ago)
I know it won't be easy. I've not taken this decision lightly. I've spent night after night worrying and thinking how I can get out of this horrible atmosphere.
I'm trying to get myself to realise that I'm not staying for the kids, but actually, it's hurting them because he never has time to spend with them. He never baths, changes, puts them to bed ect....
I'd have to go and stay at my mums again but I know I can't stay there long.
I want to try to get a private rent, but I think that is going to be hard with 3 kids and not actually working myself?
I'm pretty sure we won't get anywhere on a housing list.
What are my options?
Financially, H puts in around £1000 a month in my bank account, other than that, I have nothing atm.
I know we'll have to talk it through but I don't think he'll just let us walk away.
I don't want to stay here either really. So I wouldn't be asking him to move out or anything.
Where do I start?
Is this possible?
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practical advice for SAHM wanting to move out with 3 kids
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sportify · 13/07/2015 22:23
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