I'm thinking of asking my partner of 3 years to marry me. Neither of us have ever been married before. We are mid forties. I have young children and he has none.
I've very recently asked if he'd consider moving in together and he's agreeable to that. Now I'm thinking, I bloody love him to bits, the kids love him, they've been calling him Daddy for years now, he loves them, why not go the whole hog?
I suspect he'd respond with something like 'in time' or 'that's for the future', but I'm going to be 50 in a few years, life is precious and that's been starkly illustrated to me in the past year for a couple of reasons, but I'm worried how I'd feel if he turned me down? Would it put me off the whole thing and not want to move in with him then?
He stays at weekends and we holiday together and so on, but he's only lived on his own for around 5 years as he went straight from his parents to live-in relationship, before he became single again for a couple of years prior to meeting me.
Do I just bite the bullet and ask? What is there to lose but crushing dignity and humiliation? Or are you only supposed to ask when you're absolutely sure someone will say yes??
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Have you proposed to your partner and been turned down?
Showmehalcy · 13/07/2015 21:16
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