I have been with my H for 17 years, married for 11. We have 3 DC, all with SN.
Throughout our relationship my H has been emotionally abusive to me and to our eldest DC, sometimes physically abusive by smacking the DC and leaving marks. He throws agressive temper tantrums, stamping feet, shaking fists in public places.
This is a very small snapshot of his behaviour.
I have spent a long time lurking on this board, and a few weeks ago I decided that enough was enough. I was not going to let my DC grow up thinking this is a normal family life.
I went to a local women's aid drop in centre, and they got me an appointment with their DV solicitor.
I saw her last week, she advised me to go for an occupation order straight away, which I have.
So why do I feel like I have utterly betrayed my H? I think he has MH issues, and it feels like kicking a injured animal out into the street. I thought I would be jubilant, but I feel utterly bereft. My whole life is about to change.
He has no family, no job, no income. I feel so guilty about doing this, and taking the DCs dad away. Although he is not very involved with them.
He has always said that if I throw him out he will not bother seeing the children.
This is my second marriage, I have absolutely no worries about coping with the DC, or housing or money.
I just feel so bad for H.
Can anyone talk some sense into me?
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I thought I was doing the right thing - so why do I feel so guilty?
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mylifetoo · 13/07/2015 17:36
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