Just looking for a bit of advice on how I can support a friend who has left her partner and is struggling to come to terms with the big hole he's left in her life (her words).
To other people he appears a larger than life character, good fun, maybe a little arrogant but generally 'nice'.
But in their relationship he very definitely just wanted it to be her and him. He didn't think it was right for her to see her friends on a weekend because that was their time, he didn't like it if her boss texted her - very, very rarely happened and one particular occasion that he did it was actually to congratulate her on a great week and invite her and colleagues out later that week for a celebratory drink - partner thought he had no place texting her on a Friday evening and should have waited til Monday!
He also wasn't keen on her going on girls only trips away. She works full time and he runs a business from home but on a very casual basis - as in he had plenty of time in his day to meet his friends, pursue his hobbies and just generally please himself. She would come home and washing wouldn't be done, no food in, dishwasher not emptied etc etc - you get the picture!
Anyway, sorry didn't mean this to be so long but I'm at a loss as to what to say to her to try and get him out of her head - it's almost like he's brainwashed her? She just keeps talking about the good times, and what good fun he was - seemingly forgetting about how crap he made her feel sometimes!
She knows it won't work between them again but I just want to help her move on a bit.
Thanks for reading this far ladies!
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Jungfraujoch · 13/07/2015 13:06
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