Dh and I have been together 10 years and married for 5. Our sex life used to be good but only because I had a high sex drive. If I didn't initiate things then we wouldn't have sex. Even if I dressed up in sexy underwear it was as if it didn't even cross his mind. There were a couple of occasions where he would keep turning me down and I found out he was looking at porn. Anyway we now have a DS and I was quite happy with the lack of sex and he was the one complaining that he wanted it more. Now DS is older and I'm not as tired I'd like to work on our sex life but he's still the same. I try to always look nice for him but it's as if he just doesn't feel that way about me. The only time he seems to want to is when he feels we should. Birthdays, wedding night, last night of our honeymoon and so on. I've even wondered if he might be gay. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I'm wondering if counselling would help but he won't even talk to me. Why would he be like this? I can't help but think it's me. I don't know if I can spend the rest of my life feeling like this.
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