I have been a frequent lurker & very seldom poster on relationships since my Dh has his affair d-day being June 2012.
It was a full blown affair, d day was him coming home & telling me all about OW and that he was leaving me to be with her , (I hadn't been suspicious.)
Lots of anger, tears , weight loss , arguing etc ( the stories are here ever present sadly) . We did stay together , rebuilt, him no contact with OW. He put in all the work of fixing everything and taking all the responsibility ( quite rightly).
It has been hard , but we have found a new happier place and relationship.
I have just had a ' lightning moment'.
I was admitted for a small op last week; came round in recovery to find it was a bigger op than expected - resulting in me being totally disabled , until at least early August. I can't even get myself a glass of water.
It has left me totally frustrated and angry.
Dh , has been amazing - he accepted it better than me. He has cared for me ( without eye rolling) , run about for me. Adapted the house so it's workable for me. Taken on everything in the house work dept (it was shared before) , the kids. Kept working long hours. Comforted me and listened to my tears and fears.
He's kept happy, not complained or made me feel an inconvenience once.
He's currently shopping for a big family party ( my side) here tomorrow. When he gets home he's cleaning the house from top to bottom .
It was planned before my op , everyone said cancel or postpone. Except Dh - he said he knew I'd like to see everyone and he was happy to of it all.
Of course, since the affair, you question if you have done the right thing and if LTB would of been the right thing.
I think by how he is since my op, I've had my confirmation that I did the right thing in giving him another chance.
Today I finally realise he's not a bad man , just one that made a bad mistake.
He now does far more caring for me than hurting me.
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pausingforbreath · 11/07/2015 14:16
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