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Relationships

Flexibility with swearing

17 replies

Inexperiencedchick · 09/07/2015 18:08

How flexible are you with your DP/DH/DW usage of swearing words?

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BeeRayKay · 09/07/2015 18:09

Umn, we're both adults, so can speak how we like unless we're around the children.

00100001 · 09/07/2015 18:09

How flexible?

pocketsaviour · 09/07/2015 18:12

Do you mean swearing in general, or swearing AT you?

I am a foul mouthed trollop so unless there are kids around I don't mind my partner swearing in general. But there's a big difference between "What the fuck is this talentless pile of shit" at the telly and "for fucks sake you bitch" at me.

AuntyMag10 · 09/07/2015 18:13

Dh and I are not sweary people at all. Tbh im really put off people who use swear words so naturally in their dialogue.

LosingTheWillToSkate · 09/07/2015 18:13

Erm....we're both adult enough to use whatever words we want. Flexibility doesn't really come into it!

Inexperiencedchick · 09/07/2015 18:14

What the fuck is going on? When the person questions you....

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LosingTheWillToSkate · 09/07/2015 18:14

But that said, I don't tolerate anybody swearing at me.

Inexperiencedchick · 09/07/2015 18:16

AuntyMag, I'm one of them. Can't stand when people around me swear but prefer ignoring if the person is not relevant to me.

That is why I posted this question.

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molyholy · 09/07/2015 18:19

Depends on tone when said, but 'what the fuck is going on' is different to 'fucking tell me what the fuck you're up to'.

Inexperiencedchick · 09/07/2015 18:20

Was expressed in purpose to create a hurt.

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molyholy · 09/07/2015 18:22

I would never swear around children, but in the comfort of my own home if I am warching something on tv I will say, well what a load of shite/bollocks etc. I would never tell my partner not to swear, unless it was at me, but he wouldn't do that, so not an issue.

AuntyMag10 · 09/07/2015 18:22

I would not tolerate that and just walk away ignoring that person. Who swore at you op?

molyholy · 09/07/2015 18:23

On purpose to hurt you, then no, not acceptable imho.

Joysmum · 09/07/2015 18:25

For me, swearing isn't the issue and the intent is the key.

If my DH was deliberately setting out to hurt or punish and it was a situation causing but he blamed me then I'd challenge him.

If he were letting off steam and it was not me or aimed at me then I'd not have an issue.

If it were directed at me and I were the issue then I'd not have an issue.

Inexperiencedchick · 09/07/2015 18:26

It's in the past but the pain remains...

I'm glad it's the past.

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BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2015 18:27

Swearing WITH me. Swearing in conversation with me. Fine.

Swearing AT me. Not fine

Inexperiencedchick · 09/07/2015 18:28

My parents don't swear and for me it was a lot to handle...

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