He's probably right and I could probably use some tips on how to stop.
Background:
I recently recovered from PND and one of my big triggers for low mood appears to be the constant thinking about routine/ organisation etc with having a young child. DS is almost 1 now and it has gotten a lot easier, but still its me doing most of the planning and thinking, still directing my DH on what to do at what times, even though he claims he would do it automatically if I wasnt there to remind him. Annoying?!
He's so bloody untidy. However, Ive given up telling him about it. That's until last night, 6 weeks after him leaving a pile of paper, empty toilet roll holders, crisp wrappers etc on his bedside table. I couldnt bare to look at it anymore!
He never puts his washing in to the basket, its always in a pile in the bedroom, then he asks why I havent washed his work clothes. Uh hum.
He never puts things away.
He's constantly 'busy' with a range of important jobs like car fixing, garage sorting, leaving me to most of the housework and tidying at the end of the week! Now that Ive also gone back to work I'm feeling overwhelmed by it all. We both have demanding jobs, although I now work part-time.
I realise that what I'm describing here is standard lazy man behaviour, but how do I stop nagging? This morning, his outburst came as a product of him leaving our DS on our bed for me to finish dressing when I was still half way through dressing myself whilst he went downstairs to do something else. Our arrangement is that he gets DS ready in the mornings so that I can get myself ready, then I do breakfast. He just doesnt think at all. He admits this but says 'it's how I am, you cant just try and change me' which I find completely lazy and ridiculous.
So I snapped at him this morning, " Im still trying to get myself ready for heaven sake" and the subject line was my response. I am also fed up of nagging. How can I stop?! I miss laughing but I just feel so irritated and overwhelmed by DH, I cant relax and unwind from constant organising and thinking. Please be kind!
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