A colleague and I have had a bit of a "situation".... stopped way short of being a relationship, was barely even a fling as almost nothing physical happened, no sex at all. We are both single so no-one was being hurt by our actions.
He knocked it on the head recently, basically saying we need to get a hold of ourselves as it can't go anywhere and it will ruin our professional relationship (which has remained good even during this "thing"). Although I was initially smarting a bit basically I think because he got in there before I could I'm quite glad this has happened as he has shaken me out of my libido-induced madness, there is no way anything could have come of it and we're highly unsuited to each other in numerous ways.
I've been in a workplace relationship before and it turned into a total nightmare, was dumped and then took months to find another job while being broken-hearted and unable to concentrate on work. This is not remotely in that category, it was really just a friendship which spilled over the lines a bit and I'm far from being broken-hearted.
But I'm worried about the professional fallout nonetheless. To my knowledge none of our coworkers know for sure, although its possible one or two suspect. I'm worried about how he will behave and the possibility that he might be cold or weird with me. And I'm worried that I will not be able to stop myself doing the same to him. Its a fairly tight-knit workplace and we all get on well, I don't want an "atmosphere" to develop which could have a knock-on effect on others. And there's no chance of relocating with the firm.
Has anyone got any experience of anything like this that didn't end in total disaster? I'm really hoping this is something I'll be able to put behind me and am perfectly prepared to do what it takes to achieve this... but worried that ultimately I may have to think about moving on to a different job....
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Is it possible to emerge from a workplace "thing" with your dignity and professional respect intact?
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gooseberrydaiquiri · 08/07/2015 22:04
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