Firstly, sorry to all those who have read my deep posts before, but I find it helps so much airing things on here and hearing people's opinions
Basically, I've been with my DP for about a year and a half. At first, I just thought it was all too good to be true, I didn't feel good enough for him and was constantly scared he was just playing me. I've finally got over this (well, it's nowhere near as angsty as what it was) and I'm really enjoying the relationship. It's developed to another level. We tell each other we love each other all the time and I just love being with him. There are a couple of things though that I'm not sure about. I was in a 10 year relationship before that and a marriage/LTR before that. I'm late 30's and feel I don't really know how new-ish relationships should be!
We don't live together - nor has this even been discussed. I have held back from mentioning it as I don't want to change the dynamic of the relationship, putting myself in a place of being the one to be constantly wanting more, move to the next stage. I keep waiting for him to move things on and so far, this has worked - although it's driven me a little crazy haha
Also, when we're not together, sometimes I hear from him via text or phone numerous times a day. Other days (like today), I have had a morning text from him which I think he feels is almost obligatory - and a response to a lunchtime text from me - but that's it. I haven't contacted him, again, because I don't want him to think I'm sitting here wondering what he's doing, is he thinking about me, does he miss me, is he going to contact me. Is that really stupid? How often DO people text and do you leave the other one alone if they're just not contacting? Do people get on days and off days? Or is he blowing hot and cold emotionally himself and if so, should I give him space?
I love him to pieces, but he's been through a couple of heavy relationships where I think the woman was quite demanding and pushy for ongoing commitment and don't want him to make him feel that that's what I'm doing too.
Basically, I know it's stupid to not be able to be myself - but at the same time, I don't want to scare him away
I sound so immature I know, I just don't know what's normal!
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Feeling a bit confused and emotional about status of relationship
excitedbutscared · 08/07/2015 20:15
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