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New man - Putting fingers in your mouth when things get a heated in the bedroom...

(37 Posts)
makingyourlove Wed 08-Jul-15 16:59:21

Is this normal? Im not opposed to it, but just wondered if it was a common thing - I've not experienced it before.

We were cuddling and kissing and he had his arms around me, and then as I was touching him (sorry if TMI), he put his fingers in my mouth. (I didn't want him to go down below and he knew this, so perhaps that was why?).

Just curious!

NaiceNickname Wed 08-Jul-15 17:20:30

My guess is that he watches a lot of porn. It's a very porny thing to do, "ere, suck my fingers like it's my dick" hmm bork.

If you don't like it then just bite the fuckers off move your mouth whenever he attempts to do and tell him to stop.

makingyourlove Wed 08-Jul-15 17:22:08

Do you think??! We had the porn discussion and he said he watched it once in a blue moon!!!

Hmm. Feel a bit annoyed now!

I don't mind it, though...

NaiceNickname Wed 08-Jul-15 17:24:36

It's very rare in my experience to find a bloke who freely admits to watching porn often, especially to new partners. Of course I could be way off and he just has a finger sucking fetish grin either way, only do what you enjoy too.

wafflyversatile Wed 08-Jul-15 17:27:37

How do you mean by putting them in your mouth?

It's not abnormal for people to lick each other's fingers as there are a lot of nerve endings in them. Or so you can 'taste yourself'.

Some weird using fingers in a mouth stretchy action seems to be a thing in porn. Also ATM - ass to mouth so you are tasting your own rectum - lovely.

oabiti Wed 08-Jul-15 17:27:48

Maybe it's not down to porn. Maybe he just likes to put his fingers in to emulate a blow job (as someone above mentioned).

If you like it, just enjoy it. If you don't, tell him to stop.

PityPartay Wed 08-Jul-15 17:29:15

Giving the benefit of the doubt, I don't watch porn at all but have seen this loads, it's also part of a ridiculous number of mainstream films ime, get so fed up of the number of films with a sex scene where his fingers end up shoved in her mouth and she acts like it's Christmas. Possible he's seen that sort of thing and assumed you'd really like it?

handfulofcottonbuds Wed 08-Jul-15 17:34:01

Some weird using fingers in a mouth stretchy action seems to be a thing in porn. Also ATM - ass to mouth so you are tasting your own rectum - lovely

waffly I must have missed the bit where the OP says this confused

wafflyversatile Wed 08-Jul-15 17:45:13

She doesn't. I was expanding on different fingers in mouth scenarios as the OP wasn't explicit.

Are you only allowed to mention things already brought up on the OP? confused

handfulofcottonbuds Wed 08-Jul-15 17:46:35

Of course not Waffly smile

YonicScrewdriver Wed 08-Jul-15 17:47:17

I don't think this is particularly porny - but if you don't like it that's fine!

VerityWaves Wed 08-Jul-15 17:48:23

I think some guys just find this erotic

CactusAnnie Wed 08-Jul-15 17:58:34

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JohnFarleysRuskin Wed 08-Jul-15 18:00:17

I think it's erotic blush

Chew on them if you're unimpressed!

Sickoffrozen Wed 08-Jul-15 18:05:16

I'm not a fan of this to he honest or toe sucking.

yougotafriend Wed 08-Jul-15 18:27:47

I quite like to suck a finger & to have mine sucked. Anyone watch ally mcbeal back in the day? The finger suck played a big part!

handfulofcottonbuds Wed 08-Jul-15 18:29:37

I agree JFR blush but not toe sucking!

JohnFarleysRuskin Wed 08-Jul-15 18:38:09

It's not a porn thing particularly. I've been doing it since I was 16- (in the pre-porn era)
As for toe sucking- eww- it just reminds me of the duchess of York (sorry duchess of York)

Joysmum Wed 08-Jul-15 18:39:15

If you don't like it then just say, don't see what the big deal with or why 'normal' should be a beenchmark as you don't have to justify yourself to anyone.

Enchufla Wed 08-Jul-15 18:45:11

Its just normal really. If my partner puts his finer in my mouth i might suck or i might bite it depends how i'm feeling. I try not to do it too often as i dont like giving oral and it'll put him in mind of that and i dont want to disappoint him!

YonicScrewdriver Wed 08-Jul-15 19:00:39

Friend, but so did wattle and knee pit - I'm not sure ally Mcbeal is a good guide!

bodenbiscuit Wed 08-Jul-15 19:02:15

I think it's normal - I've done it to people and I don't watch porn.

HellonHeels Wed 08-Jul-15 19:10:36

Normal not porny IMO. If you don't like it, tell him.

missqwerty Wed 08-Jul-15 19:34:44

I like doing this! But I'm strange and also like my chin been sucked!

SlightlyJaded Wed 08-Jul-15 19:37:06

Pretty vanilla IMO and I wouldn't read anything into it. BUT key thing is how you feel about it.

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