In my last relationship, I started to feel like I didn't know who I was anymore. I think partly because exDP was very selfish, but also because I don't put myself first very often.
I have recently met a lovely, lovely guy. However, I also thought my exDP was a lovely guy for the first few months!!! I do feel this new man is different in many ways - for one he definitely seems to understand me better and he makes me laugh in a way I have never felt before with any exDP.
I am falling for him fast, and I don't want the same thing to happen. Do you think that it's the other person who can contribute to low self-esteem (ie if this guyis more decent than my ex, perhaps I wont have the same problem), or are there things I should be doing from the word go, like now, to make sure I never stop putting myself first and making sure I dont totally lose myself in someone?
I have a good job, lots of friends and I am generally happy. With my ex towards the end, I never knew where I stood and I felt so anxious hearing from him as I knew it would be another drama/lie etc. I should have left sooner than I did. I would like to think this guy is different, but you never know do you...