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When someone says 'I love you' and you don't feel the same?

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Nevergoingtolearn Tue 07-Jul-15 15:50:39

Been seeing someone for a very short time, we don't see each other that often due to distance and me having dc's, we try and spend the weekend together when we can. This weekend he stayed over, tbh I didn't think it went that well and I was quite pleased when it was time for him to go home, I'm used to having my own space and my bed to myself, he is quite full on at times and I'm not sure if I feel a spark ( not like he does ), as he went to go home he said 'I love you', I think it slipped out accidentally and at first I didn't think he meant it. Later he text me to say he did mean it.

I don't really feel the same, at times I enjoy his company, the sex is amazing but I don't think he is someone I want to share the rest of my life with ( or even the next few years ), it's far too early to be declaring undying love for someone, we hardly know each other and tbh he talks a lot about himself but never asks questions about me so I am undpsure how he can say he loves me when he knows very little about me.

He keeps asking me how I feel, how do I tell him that I don't feel the same?
This will be the end won't it?

AnyFucker Tue 07-Jul-15 15:54:51

he is too pushy for you

listen to your instincts

pocketsaviour Tue 07-Jul-15 16:02:22

You seem to have very different expectations for the relationship.

You're happy to keep it casual, he wants more.

I would end it for that reason and just say you want different things and you think he's getting much too emotionally invested, much too soon.

Nevergoingtolearn Tue 07-Jul-15 16:10:33

I will have to end it won't I? I hate having to dump people ( not that I do it often ).

He will text me later when he gets in from work, I don't know what to say to him sad

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