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Unwanted guest who outstayed their welcome ? Please share :)(33 Posts)
It's one of my favourite topic on mumsnet ! I never have any guests so I don't have anything to report but I'm sure some of you have great things to tell ! I do thank you
I had a friend come to stay once after her landlord put the flat on the market. I said she could stay whislt she found something else, foolishly assuming she was looking to rent again, so maybe a month. Only she decided to buy and it took nearly a year .
In fairness, she was reasonably easy to have about the place and bought me a holiday as a gift when she left!!
We had a friend of my then DP, who asked if he could visit for a 'couple of days'. DP agreed, and was happy as he hadn't seen his mate for a couple of years so it would be lovely to catch up. We raised our eyebrows a bit when he arrived with several suitcases and his TV, but he assured us that he'd decided to move back to our city, had somewhere to live lined up, and he would be out of our hair in two or three days...
Of course that fell through and things got increasingly tense. I was pregnant at the time and although I felt sorry for the guy (everything seemed to go wrong for him all at once, how convenient) I was worried he would still be there when the baby arrived!
Eventually after five weeks, his visit ended after we had to call the police to have him removed, following him getting shitfaced and kicking our front door in because he'd lost our keys.
He then moved in with another couple we know, who were also due to have a baby. Again he was removed by police after climbing in through a bedroom window at 2am and terrifying the wife (drunk again).
I never have any guests so I don't have anything to report but I'm sure some of you have great things to tell ! I do thank you
Seriously?!? What a bizarre post. Are you a journalist?
"I have nothing to contribute to this topic but I'm voyeuristic so tell me yours. Entertain me".
Oh come on, SelfLoathing, lighten up! Some of these threads are really funny and just because the OP doesn't have any experience of it herself it doesn't mean she doesn't want to read about it.
It's hardly of interest to a journalist, is it?
My ex BIL came to stay with us for "2 weeks when he left his wife. he ended up staying six months. ironically now my H has left me he is now living with his brother! They maybe shouldn't have bothered getting married and moved into together from the start!
Sweet They can be sad old bastards together.
Imperial I still think it's pretty wanky to go "I've got nothing; entertain me". For Gods sake, make something up or tell a friend's story.
Imagine if someone posted "I love reading about the crisis people go through when they discover text messages on their DPs phone. I don't have any stories but please tell me yours as love reading about them."
And yes it could be if the brief is write a "unwelcome guest" examples piece.
Wow seriously ? it couldn't have been more light hearted than that..
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
I like unwanted guests stories, stories about guests behaving so badly it's unbelievable ! Don't you remember that poster who posted about her Mexican house invaded by her neighbours ?
Husband No.2 overstayed his welcome...
When me and exdp were in our early twenties living in London we were fortunate enough to have our own 2 bed flat. We covered a large part of the mortgage by renting the spare room.
An old friend from our home town asked to stay for a couple of weeks as she was looking to move down and find a job so we said that was fine. I got her a job at the pub I worked in straight away but we already had a couple sharing with us so she knew she needed to find somewhere else to live. Except she didn't.
She was oddly over familiar, would get into our bed when we were watching a film late at night and fall solidly asleep. DP ended up on the sofa on many occasions. She never bought food and at mealtimes would say 'so what are we having?' and for some reason we found it difficult to say no to her. She'd tag along on nights out and on her days off hang around the pub until I finished work then tag along with me and my friends.
We paid for everything for the first month she was with us, from bus fares to tampons so on payday I expected some contribution or offer to pay us back. Instead she paid her mum back to Â£100 odd she'd borrowed for her (first class, single) ticket down here, then went off to camden for the day and spent every penny of her wages on clothes, cocktails and god knows what.
When asked about paying us some board she pointed out that she didnt have her own room at ours so assumed she was paying nothing, and how lucky we were that we paid so relatively little anyway. When we asked about her finding somewhere else she told us our current housemates were leaving that weekend so she'd move in there , how exciting etc. Turns out they had a live in job offer in devon and were indeed moving, and happy to pay us the months notice. But they'd told her first. You can imagine what happened next....
Anyway after two months I was about to grow some balls and tell her we needed her to move on, came back from work to find her gone, along with several of mine and dps things and a note telling me that she couldn't bear to live with people who were 'stifling her bohemian consciousness'. She also stole an amount of spirits and cash from work which I felt awful about given I had recommended her. All round gob smackingly entitled , though I wish I could shake younger me and explain some things about boundaries.....
I think you might get more replies if you posted this in Chat rather than Relationships - I know you intended it light-heartedly but it's not really about Relationships, and does come across a little as 'entertain me with your freak shows' and IMHO that's not really in the spirit of this topic, where people do bring their very sensitive problems.
In the spirit the OP intended I will contribute mine.
After DC3 arrived I was home 5 days post caesarian when a "depressed" cousin of DH appeared for a visit. She moved into the baby's room to sleep on the floor "as he is sleeping with you" and seemed to expect to be fed and listened to. My DH and I were gobsmacked at her cheek and being nice
and crap at assertiveness let her stay and I cooked for her. She did play with my DDs and comb out all the Barbies hair nicely! I began to tire of her when she demanded I cook her an early meal so she could go out in the evening but when I remonstrated she cried a lot and left her bottle of pills on the floor for DD2 to find and try...
Suffice it to say she had been caught out having an affair and her DH had thrown her out for the week. By the following month she was back with him and all was smoothed over. She never thanked me or acknowledged how inconsiderate she had been. I hope I have grown some balls now. I was wet in those days!
My DSis came to stay with us for what was meant to be a month or so when she moved down to London. 6 months later and she was still with us, having her BF over every other weekend to stay without asking, and seemed to quite enjoy moaning about how she had no money every chance she got, all while never paying us a penny of rent and would quite often go out all weekend eating in fancy restaurants she ended up getting sick and having to move home, so now we just have ALL her shit sitting in our spare guest room (and won't confirm whether I should just ship it all back ). Never again.
foof, well I think your thread is amusing. I haven't anything useful to add though, sorry. Your "I thank you" reminded me that I haven't seen Julian Clary around much lately, I like him.
I once had someone I hardly know move in. She was a barmaid at my local pub and I gave her a lift home one night as we were leaving at the same time and going in the same direction. When she got home it turned out she had lost her keys and was locked out. Never mind - her husband was due to finish work in an hour or so, so I offered that she could come back to mine (it was late) and text him to come and meet her there. He turned up after work fuming at her (and very apologetic to me) because he had told her that his key had broken a few days before, so she knew he didn't have a key. She'd forgotten.
So I said they could stay the night so they could contact the landlord in the morning to arrange getting back in. The next morning they rang their landlord to get an answermachine message (I heard it - they weren't making it up!) saying that he was away and would be back in a fortnight!!!!
The girl was an absolute nightmare. She tried to get off with a friend of mine and relentlessly pursued him despite him physically hiding from her. She didn't turn up to work and got sacked. She cut my hair when I wasn't expecting it. She ate and drank me out of house and home, and borrowed my clothes without asking. The husband on the other hand was lovely and apologetic and desperately trying to think of a way out of the situation.
After about a week I told him I really couldn't stand her staying any more. He was very apologetic (again) and looked at me sadly and said "that's exactly how I feel".
'She cut my hair when I wasn't expecting it'
'She cut my hair when I wasn't expecting it' shock
I know right?! She had previously been a trainee hairdresser and was saying one night how much she missed putting hair up for shows. She said my hair was the ideal length to put up in some sort of bun/braidy thing and could she do it while I watched TV. "Sure" I said and she set about me with grips, a comb and a bottle of hairspray. In the middle of doing it she reached for the scissors and lobbed a load off without saying a word. The gasps from her husband and my ex were enough for me to know something had happened.
Why in the fuckity fuck did she cut your hair Anon?
Tali - see above!!! Apparently she was struggling to get it to go up the way she wanted it to. So she just cut it off. Not a trim either. About 4". And not all over, just in one section. I had to go to the hairdrssers to gt it sorted.
Me and DP had just moved into our lovely new home (not new but new to us!) We were looking forward to spending time in it and our DD finally had her own room.
A family member came to stay with us for a couple of weeks, sob story was
- Just out of prison, nowhere to go
- Sleeping rough
We agreed to 2 weeks to help them out as no other family member would help (should have seen why) 7 months later he has only just left - lovely things included
Lying - lots and lots of lying especially about if they were working
bringing his girlfriend to our house - 1st time we had met her - all the kids in the house and having very noisy sex with her
Stealing from my kids
Stealing from DP
Getting arrested - twice (from my house)
Having early morning visits from the police as per bail conditions every day (around 6am)
Never lifiting a finger to help despite being asked
Didnt speak to me or my kids despite being related to them
Borrowed money on sob stories which was never paid back
Getting arrested for shoplifting - having to pay Asda back so he didnt go to court
Never gave us a penny in 7 months, not once, despite supposed to be working full time (back to the lying)
Never cleaned DD's room up (that he was staying in)
Never once in 7 months washed his bedding
Could count the number of times on one hand that I washed his work clothes, bet he was lovely to sit next to - 1 pair of trousers and 2 shirts washed a handful of times.
He has moved out now and will NEVER be moving back.
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