I sort of know IAMU before I ask, but for some reason I feel really angry and wanted to get some opinions.
I was with my BF from May 2014 to December 2014. It was a bit of an unconventional relationship because when he met me, I was pretty broken up after my fiance was caught cheating and didn't want to go out with anyone. He was very persistent and said he just wnated to be friends, maybe take a walk sometimes and he became a really good friend to me. He was always there for me and after a few months we did become a couple.
I'll openly admit that while we got on great and were very close that I was just not ready for a relationship and he kids / to be together and make a life.
I made a decision in December to relocate because it was best for me to move back closer to my family as my wedding was now off and this meant leaving the new BF behind. He wanted to discuss coming with me but I didn't want him to give up his whole life for me.
So I moved in December and the first 3 months or so we carried on seeing each other, talking regularly, I visited, he visited and he remained my best friend. We were openly dating other people as we knew the distance meant it could not work long term. He did keep saying he wnated to marry me, and suggested again moving down and I told him it was best to wait a year to be 100% sure before he made such a big decision.
Anyway, very suddenly he met someone else, started dating her and witin 8 weeks if proposing to me, he's now in lovd with this other girl. He now never texts me, never calls, when I went back there last time he didn't even make an effort to see me or ask how I was and I just feel like I was meaningless to him which re-enforced how my fiance made me feel. It's like I was just forgotten suddenly.
I KNOW he said he wnated to marry me and move with me, but what I wnated was for him to be consistent and prove himself over time and he ended up forgetting me like I never existed.
I am not in love with him, I don't think I ever was TRULY in love with him but did care about him enormously and probably felt like he was my best friend in the world. All of a sudden he doesn't want to know me really at all, and when I questioned it he told me I got "more than most friends" and admits he thinsk this woman might be "the one" and finds nothing odd about the fact that he said the same to me a few weeks ago.
Pics today on FB of him with the new woman, walking on the beach with a love heart drawn in the sand with their initials. EIGHT weeks after he proposed to me?
AIMU to be really hurt and pissed off? It's not that I want him, I don't, or that I want him to want me...I'm not that childish...it's just that he's made me feel like everything between us was never real or true and that I was as easily replaced as a pair of socks.
I made a choice in December to relocate
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AIBU? And if I am...is it ok to occassionaly be?
definitelymaybee · 06/07/2015 00:21
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