I have had two serious relationships in the past, and I am now 32.
I decided to start online dating a couple of months ago, and have met up with a couple of people. One of which was very keen from day one, and I wasn't physically attracted to him. But, as the third and fourth date has happened, I am finding that there is a physical spark slowly emerging. In terms of everything else, I am hugely attracted to him - we speak all the time and I absolutely love hearing from him. He challenges me too, which I like, and is incredibly kind.
My question is... when are you sure? And if you're not sure from the word go, isn't that a bad thing? My sister/mum/couple of friends tell me that sometimes you have to wait and 'give someone a chance,' and the feelings can grow. But others say that they met their partner and that was it... couldn't live without them, wanted to shag them there and then etc etc etc.
At this point I really am just 'seeing how it goes, because I am interested to an extent, but not fully in terms of the complete physical (we have kissed and it was amazing, though). I've never done this before, and always had an initial full on attraction where I fancy them like mad. I guess my question is... is this doomed eventually anyway because the physical spark isn't there?
Thanks in advance for any answers!
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When you're not sure about the physical attraction... can it grow or is it doomed?
newtothos01 · 05/07/2015 11:34
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