Been lurking on the limerence thread and have a big crush issue.
I had a casual relationship that was on/off with a guy I really liked. I think he was just using me for sex but we seemed to get on v. well and he told me that he liked me a lot. I decided to back off because he'd done a couple of bad things that had hurt me. I was really emotionally involved and so avoided him and just stopped returning his calls.
This was all about a year + a couple of months ago. He has called me inthat time but I've just avoided him.
I'm really obsessed with him and recently have been thinking about him a ton.
A gf told me she thought the problem was that it ended because he hurt me and not because I got fed up with him, or he got bored with me etc. So that this has made it harder for me to process - because it always felt that it was "unclosed".
I was thinking about this and was wondering whether I should get in touch with him. This would be on the basis of "what the hell. I think about him all the time anyway, so I may as well get the benefit of seeing him/having sex with him".
A major downside is that - because I ignored his calls before - he may very well choose to ignore any contact from me to "teach me a lesson". That would be a real risk and I'd find that upsetting I'm sure.
But fact is if I'm not over him by now, what do I really have to lose? I'm not interested in any one else. I kind of think f8ck it, have a go.
I definitely think that if he had ended it/dumped me I'd have found it much easier to move on. Like on the limerence thread, the open endedness of it, his repeatingly calling me meant it all still felt possible.
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Should I call him/get in touch?
JessicasCat · 04/07/2015 14:35
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