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How to break a date with family members?

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beckyb123 Fri 03-Jul-15 14:45:32

I am known to be a 'good listener' and several family members have confided in me recently some things I am uncomfortable with, nothing illegal or dangerous. I don' t want to meet up with them tomorrow but they are expecting me to attend a fundraising event at their home tomorrow. I agreed to go a couple of weeks ago when I was feeling fine but have changed my mind (er.. can't be ar**d anymore). What's the easiest way to drop out?

patienceisvirtuous Fri 03-Jul-15 14:47:28

You should honour your commitment.

Or selfishly drop out with "I can't make it anymore because I can't be arsed."

Smartiepants79 Fri 03-Jul-15 14:48:41

I suppose it depends on how close the family is. What kind of event it is. And if you wish to be honest or not!
Illness or similar would work but be lying.
Is it the kind of event you'll be really missed at?
Can you not just go for and hour then head off again?
Do you mind potentially upsetting them?

patienceisvirtuous Fri 03-Jul-15 14:48:55

Or... 'Since you told me you're having an affair (or whatever uncomfortable truth they told you) I don't want to come to your event anymore.'

pocketsaviour Fri 03-Jul-15 14:58:48

Sudden attack of stomach flu should work.

MatildaTheCat Fri 03-Jul-15 15:22:43

Migraine. you lot have given me a headache

Janette123 Sat 04-Jul-15 08:02:48

Beckyb123,
You must honour the commitment you made.
However, if any of them start telling you their business again shut them down fast. Tell them that you're sorry but you really don't want to listen to their problems as the stuff they are revealing you isn't appropriate, and it's put you in a difficult position.
Or you could suggest they talk to a trained counsellor grin

beckyb123 Sat 04-Jul-15 18:50:42

felt guilty, went to event, won cuddly toy-stuffed gorilla in the raffle. Told 2 people that they need to seek professional help. The scones were yummy. Families eh?

Anniegetyourgun Sat 04-Jul-15 18:52:35

Glad it went ok. Pic of gorilla please!

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