I need some advice from an unbiased source before i end up walking away from my relationship. Basically I've been with my partner for nearly 6 months, she was pregnant when i met her and she has a nine year old son from a previous relationship. The baby was conceived after a one night stand and she decided to keep it. I came into the relationship eyes open willing to take up the role of being involved in said child's life. The baby's father also plays a role in her life since shes been born a month ago. (We are a lesbian couple)
So anyway my partner had a difficult pregnancy towards the end as she had severe spd and was housebound. I practically became her carer. Again something i had a choice and say in.
The baby was born 5th june and since my partner has come home from hospital I've felt our relationship has been on the skids. Now i understand a new baby is hard work and exhausting and she has alot to get used to bla de bla.
But everything i do is literally wrong. Baring in mind before she gave birth she was singing my praises to everyone about how amazing i am (only thing I'm doing different now is helping with the baby too) but no everytime i say something i get snapped at. I try to help and she argues with me. I try to look after the baby and she judges my standards of childcare. I spend alot of time sat at her house feeling so unwelcome because she'll ignore me and choose to sit playing on her phone instead of talking to me. It literally feels like she doesn't want me anymore.
When i talk to her about how i feel i just get accused of making her out to be a bad person. If I'm quiet i get told off for not speaking. If i go home i get accused of leaving her to look after the kids on her own. Yet when I'm there she watches over me like a hawk.
Is this just a hormone thing that'll hopefully pass in the next couple of weeks or is it something deeper? Cos i don't know how long i can continue being enemy for.
I'm having to apologise all the time for a easy life and i haven't done anything wrong. Should i cut my losses and leave her to be amisery on her own or should i be more supportive and insistant on her letting me help? I honestly don't know what to do for the best. I love her but I'm not willing to be treated like this for no reason. I took enough from her when she was pregnant
Sorry for ranting but all advice will be appreciated
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devilish4 · 02/07/2015 21:46
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