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Online dating ... when is it too young?

(26 Posts)
NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 19:23:31

I started a thread recently about hookup sites, joined Fab as a result and have had one meet with someone around my age; it went really great, was lots of fun and we'll be meeting in a couple of weeks again.

In the market for just something casual at this point in my life hence joining the hook up site. I was idle last night and ended up reactivating my OKCupid profile. Checked messages this morning and there's one from the hottest guy ever, so hot. He can spell too and seems mature enough ..... for his age; he's 22. I am 41grin. I'm aware that he's absolutely trying to tick the 'I slept with an older woman' box however .... I am only interested in casual encounters at the moment. And he's extremely attractive, perfect body. But 22 is waaay too young. .... isn't it?hmm.

I don't think I dare going through with it but interested to hear the general consensus is on it (worth mentioning that he doesn't really look 22, more like 28/29). And if I did go through with it, what about the logistics of it? I would need to smuggle him in, I would die of embarrassment if someone I know saw me having a drink/flirting/ dragging him back to mine but wouldn't just invite him over without meeting him first.....

LoisPuddingLane Thu 02-Jul-15 19:26:29

Oh do it. He's legal and he's a grown up. It's only for fun, so why not?

Cabrinha Thu 02-Jul-15 19:30:12

I have no idea why him looking 29 not 22 makes any difference at all.

Personally I think it sounds horrid. I've had my share of sex for fun, but I just can't fancy men young enough to be my own child. I just find it odd.

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 19:31:57

Oh but Cabrinha you would fancy this one .... PM me if you're on OKCupid and you'll see wink

LoisPuddingLane Thu 02-Jul-15 19:32:56

I've been with a few people with an age gap like that and it's ok. As to the logistics, you could go to a hotel if you don't want people seeing you.

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 19:34:09

I doubt he would be able to pay for half the hotel room with his pocket money though Lois grin

sparklyDMs Thu 02-Jul-15 19:36:47

Life's too short - go for it wink

LoisPuddingLane Thu 02-Jul-15 19:37:09

He'll have to save up then, won't he?

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 19:42:44

How sexually proficient are 22 year olds nowadays though? Will he know what goes where? Won't it be all a little bit clumsy and heavy handed?

Cabrinha Thu 02-Jul-15 19:44:13

That's just it though - I really wouldn't. I've never yet fancied someone half my age, no matter how good looking I know that they objectively would be considered!
But I don't fancy men with beards either! We all have our types!

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 19:45:51

Oh I do love a man with a beard.....

LoisPuddingLane Thu 02-Jul-15 19:50:13

It depends really. I've had clumsy lovers who were much older and more experienced, and really careful, caring lovers who were much younger. I've always found guitarists are good with their hands. Does he play guitar?

whooshbangprettycolours Thu 02-Jul-15 19:50:27

What he lacks in skill he'll make up for with enthusiasm wink

LoisPuddingLane Thu 02-Jul-15 19:52:30

And at 22 they can go again really soon.

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 19:56:20

True Lois wink. He's apparently an actor. I'll need to ask about his guitar playing skills next.....I'll also need to ask whether he drives; I wouldn't want him staying the whole night and no night buses where I liveconfused

whooshbangprettycolours Thu 02-Jul-15 19:59:21

We will require details you realise grin

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 20:03:32

You and all his mates who will be eagerly texting him for updates I'm sure Whoosh grin

LoisPuddingLane Thu 02-Jul-15 20:04:04

Guitar players and engineers. Both good. Drummers not so much. Although you'd think so. Pianists good.

monkeyfacegrace Thu 02-Jul-15 20:06:21

Ah do it.
It's a shag. Not marriage.

I want details though. Please.

Cabrinha Thu 02-Jul-15 20:07:50

We're ideal friends OP, we'd never fancy the same guy in a bar! You pick off the bearded young 'UK whilst I... chat up his dad grin

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 20:20:57

Cabrinha grin

No wonder drummers are not so good, all that heavy poundingconfused.

Taytocrisps101 Thu 02-Jul-15 20:33:06

You could have been me two months ago! Meet a guy at the races, swapped numbers, thought he was about 30 but turns out he is 20! Lots of texting, both decided we were up for a one off encounter, I even booked the hotel! He couldn't make it though but was still keen...Since then I have met someone I really like on Match so didn't think it was fair to keep stringing Mr 20 along. I say go for it as long as you both have the same expectations....life is short. Have fun and stay safe!

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 21:19:47

Thanks Tayto, it's encouraging.... wink

NoMoreMrRight Thu 02-Jul-15 21:27:24

OK have now exchanged numbers.... watch this space! grin

whooshbangprettycolours Sat 04-Jul-15 16:07:36

Yey!

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