She and I split middle of last year... Out marriage was over for a long time really but his sex texting put the nail in it really...
We both start seeing people around the same time at the end of last year - his lasted about 6 months but my relationship going from strength to strength. My new partner is understanding and lovely with my 3 kids.
Earlier this year I booked a holiday cottage for me and the kids. Early on my new partner said he would love to join us for a bit - great!! Then ex dh said he would probably stay for a night or two at the start on his way to start a tour of Britain visit of his mates. It was all kept quite loose but ex dh has a habit of making loose plans and then only firming them up in his own head!
Anyway I stupidly didn't think hid all through and asked partner how he felt about ex dh being there for the first few days - he was ok but said it felt a bit weird and would this be a regular thing. I thought about it reacted too quickly - calling ex dh to say I didn't think him coming was a good idea. He has had a total meltdown about it and accuses me of putting new partner ahead of the kids. I backed down and said why not come for one night but he has now said no way is he coming at all - keeps accusing me of being a fucking bitch.
For the record j arranged and paid for tbis holiday. I feel it was only ever a conscience to him. He hasn't arranged or even mentioned taking the kids away himself and usually only sees them at weekends when I pre-arrange it.
I guess I have put my new partners feelings up there (I still don't think ahead of the kids) but is that so bad? We've been together 10 months
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How much of a shit have I been?
lemondust · 01/07/2015 20:39
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