Hi I am in a quandray.
I had an awful, violent, controlling relationship with ex p who left in April. I got the police involved after one incident and am still deciding whether to push that further.
However I have found out that the new woman he's seeing knows nothing about his past.
The main issue is that he is on the sex offenders register for an offence four years ago. This came out after I knew him for a while and I should have run for the hills. However he convinced me that he hadn't been at fault; the system etc etc
I don't want to give details but it wants rape.
Anyway he groomed me also I think. Isolated me from family; used controlling behaviour and occasionally violence including putting his hands around my throat.
Now the new issue. He works with new lady and she sends him to people's houses to fix things. He has told me she doesn't know. However when she finds out this puts her in a v difficult position and her job could be on line.
She doesn't even know his real name.
He also has a daughter he doesn't acknowledge or support and is being chased by the csa.
I have knowledge now that he's been abusive to other partners.
I'm trying to put my life back together and have an amazing new partner.
I feel he will ruin her life too and she needs to be warned. She's a single parent too and he uses women to get what he wants ( a roof and in her case more work)
She has no idea of what awaits
There are lots of other secrets too and his family has disowned him.
Leave well alone and let another family be damaged or tell her?
I'm afraid of him tbh also
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Shall I tell new partner of ex about his criminal past and violence?
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Mrskeats · 30/06/2015 19:13
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