Tomorrow I have a first appointment with a solicitor to get an initial feel of what I can expect from a divorce settlement. To get myself prepped I've spent some time making notes and writing down all the key points, so that I don't get flustered and forget anything.
Now that it's all down on paper it reads terribly. It just sounds like a catalogue of shit and financial misery all caused by his stupid business mistakes. I'm no legal expert, but objectively it looks pretty heavily weighted to me.
If I go ahead with this he is going to take it very badly. I feel disloyal and nasty but the truth is I just can't take the stress and worry of it all any more. I need to protect myself and my children so there's still a family home to actually haggle over. If he carries on as he is he could well destroy all that. Add in the fact that he's not a loving and supportive husband and I've been unhappy for years.
So I should be fine with my decision, but I feel bad and guilty for not sticking by my marriage vows and living with this. I just feel so bad. He doesn't know anything about this yet btw as I wanted to get some legal advice first.
Why do I feel so bad? Does this mean I still love him and should give this more time, or am I just so used to propping him up and worrying about him, not me???
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Guilt and worry about how H will cope if I divorce him
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lifebeginsat42 · 30/06/2015 18:42
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