Our marriage is just a quarterly cycles of feeling generally pissed at each other, having rows, making up, everything ok for a while, then the cycle beginning again once the "best behaviour" time has worn off.
Have realised that I do generally view DH in the negative, try very hard not to, but his actions generally just come round to me being pissed off with him again. He starts cribbing & moaning about how terrible x,y,z is and I just roll my eyes and think "ffs...what is it now that he's cribbing about" - he is one of lifes moaners, glass half empty, negative kind of person (he would say he's a realist, I would say pessimist and then some), I then feel I have to deal with the shit, he resents this and calls me controlling, I back off and am then told I don't care about him or his feelings???
Had counselling, tried PMA, tried just ignoring it but nothing changes even when my attitude changes something will happen to bring us back down to the point where he threatens to leave is I don't change and start compromising?
thoroughly fed up of the drama, wholly incapable of deciding what is best action and if it is me that's is in the wrong what do I do about it?
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Realised I have no respect for DH
TooMuchJD · 30/06/2015 15:26
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