I am 66 and have been married to a verbally abusive man for 44 years. I have 7 children, 2 adopted. I know I should have got out earlier but I had very low self esteem (my parents were physically and verbally abusive, we travelled all around the world with his job so I never had a support network, things were ok sometimes, he made be believe his behaviour was caused by my deliberately provoking him so spent years trying to find the 'right' way to approach him, I could never stand up to him, I thought no one would believe me and knew if I did anything it would lead to a bitter battle that a charming and articulate man like him was sure to win.
He retired 2 years ago and things are so much worse. He has taken total control of the house. The only time he speaks to me is to call me vile abusive names. He says I am trying to control him. His job was his life and all his self esteem.
we have a 9 year old grandson with special needs living with us. He speaks to me in exactly the same way as my husband does, hits and kicks me. He is growing up to be his clone.
And to make things even more difficult I am ill, not at all mobile and unable to go out alone or drive. Basically I have spent most of the last 2 years in my bedroom to keep out of his way. We have seperate rooms. He says I am not a proper woman and have nothing to offer him.
If I leave this house I believe I will never get back in. My grandson would go nowhere with me willing and I am never left alone with him.
I don't have any money.
My other children know about the situation, they lived with it, but am not sure if they believe how bad it is.
I would like to get custody of my grandson and I know they would help and one son would probably move in with me but I don't believe they would be prepared to give evidence against
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maud876 · 29/06/2015 13:13
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