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Neighbours noise.

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Mary1935 Mon 29-Jun-15 10:54:07

Dear all, my next door neighbours moved in 7 months ago. She has 4 children and moved from a domestic violence situation from Manchester. They are a Somalian family and are Muslim. They are very very respectful. There is some noise from them. It's running up and down the stairs, coming and going late at night - the children are 14 12 7 and 2. They stay up late which is there choice. I actually don't have much of a problem with the noise. I am probably more tolerant. I was one of 9. He was an only child and lived at the end of a block of terraces. It's my husband. I have spoken to the mum twice and she has responded. My husband has problems sleeping, we live in a terrace. He goes on to me when there is noise and he is"now dreading the 6 week holidays" He said we need to move which is not an option. I have asked him to speak to her but he won't. I feel caught and would welcome any ideas of what to do to manage it all round. The noise wouldnt come under noise nuisance. Thank you Mary.

summerainbow Mon 29-Jun-15 12:53:28

Can you decorate with sound proof
Materials .

PoppyField Mon 29-Jun-15 13:02:45

Your H needs to see that this is not your fault, nor is it your responsibility to sort this out for him.

Why is his response to an annoying neighbour, to have a go at you? That is not fair and, more pertinently, does not help the situation at all. He needs to make constructive steps - saying you have to move at this stage is just childish. Don't let him put you in the middle. In fact, tell him that you are not having him put you in the middle of all this.

Mary1935 Mon 29-Jun-15 14:25:32

Hi yes thank you both. We cant soundproof but maybe they could get a carpet on there stairs. Poppyfield I have said the same to him and will continue to tell him he's the one with the issue. I didn't have a healthy upbringing and can take responsibility for stuff that isn't mine and am just checking if I'm being unreasonable. Thanks

pocketsaviour Mon 29-Jun-15 14:30:36

It can be difficult in terraced housing and teenagers in particular have no idea how noisy they are. If their stairs are uncarpeted then it must be making a racket.

What sort of time does the noise go on til? You said they go to bed late but is that 10pm, midnight, 2am? I'd be getting pretty pissed off if I was being repeatedly woken in the wee small hours.

But if the noise doesn't bother you, then it's not up to you to sort it out. If your H is having the issue, then he should be addressing it. Does he "delegate" this sort of thing to you a lot?

Inexperiencedchick Mon 29-Jun-15 14:34:43

It's Ramadan, that's why they stay up at night. It will finish by 17-20th of July.

And here in England walls are very thin, I know it's not much help what I'm writing here.

Can your H stick something in his ears?

I used to sleep from 6pm to midnight (in order to study at night when everyone is asleep and no one disturbs you) in student apartment and the noise was unbearable, so I had to stick small cotton bolls in my ears.

Whatever solution you will find..., flowers

MiddleAgedandConfused Mon 29-Jun-15 16:36:03

Buy a pair of Bose noise cancelling headphones - they are amazing and will really help, especially when combined with ear plugs.

Mary1935 Mon 29-Jun-15 16:57:33

Yes thanks all and especially to pocketsaviour yes he does try and sometimes succeed in passing on his issues to me. I do try and say its not my issue but he's quite skilled at passing it on. It can wear you down. I will suggest the ear plugs. Best wishes mary

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